“All her life she’d be warned that men were slaves to their desires, that they held their impulses in barely controlled check. A woman – a lady – must be very, very careful of her actions so she did not put spark to the gunpowder that was a man’s libido.” – Elizabeth Hoyt
Some women’s libidos are like bank accounts, sometimes they aren’t as big as you’d like them to be. And at some point in every relationship, yours will likely be out of kilter with your partner’s. If your girlfriend is showing signs of a weakened libido, try these quick fixes to have her wanting to do the deed just as bad and just as often as you.
A table for two
Firstly, if you’re raring to go and your partner is torn between you and repeats of Friends, do this little trick: pass your arm around her shoulders so that she can get a quick sniff of your armpit. I’m as serious as a tsunami, let her breathe that pheromone filled smell of yours. The University of California has discovered there’s a compound in male sweat that can radically alter sexual excitement in women.
If that doesn’t blow her hair back, perhaps she’d feel more favorably towards cucumber? It’s one of the most effective scents for boosting a lady’s arousal, according to the Chicago Smell & Taste Treatment and Research Foundation. They also discovered that whiffs of doughnuts, pizza, strawberries and popcorn increase penile blood flow in men. Margaritas and Krispy Kremes for dinner? Winning!
If you really want to kick it up a gear, serve chocolate for desert. This tricky little treat contains phenethylamine, the chemical our brains produce when we fall in love. And if she’s not a sweet tooth, try a handful of pumpkin seeds, brazil nuts or almonds instead. They’re all high in arginine, an amino acid that increases the level of blood flow in the genitals. That’s right – just like Viagra, only crunchy!
There are plenty of other morsels on the menu, too – Thai green curry has been shown to improve sex drive, as has porridge, which helps rebalance estrogen and testosterone. Red meat might even help her hit the high notes – it contains a protein that boosts the level of dopamine and some other fun stuff in the brain, which help heighten sensitivity during sexy times.
Trick her body and mind into wanting to do it
Bud sadly, there are times not even a Sizzler buffet will do it. Whether she’s feeling stressed or just a little bit down, relaxation is paramount if you want your partner to get into the rude groove. Even something simple like having a bath can help- studies show steam helps naturally increase a lady’s sex drive. You can go out for a walk while she’s relaxing with bath oils, sexy foam and lit candles. Reports show that the vitamin D in sunshine can boost a man’s testosterone by 69 per cent. Yes, 69 per cent! There couldn’t be a sexier statistic.
And if none of that works? You’ll have to bring out the big guns… By which, of course, I mean push the breaks on intercourse altogether. It sounds counter-intuitive, but it’s like telling a toddler not to touch a pie straight out of the oven. As soon as it’s off-limits, it’s the one thing she’ll want to do.
Have a sensational week,
Gabrielle Moore
P.S. Did you know that one in four Indians takes medicines for better sex? The interesting thing is that they don’t necessarily have to be Viagra or anything of its kind. Indians consider even milk and turmeric as sexual performance enhancers. Check out my video program on the matter – Flesh on Flesh
