You don’t have to rein in the passion when your partner is pregnant, I promise.
When you’re just about dealing with the knowledge that your partner is pregnant, it can be quite overwhelming at first. But should life as you knew it come to a grinding halt? What about boys’ nights out, going on spontaneous trips, having fun together just like in the beginning? And what about sex?
Now that the deed is done, can you…um…still have sex?
Absolutely, obstetricians say. If your partner’s pregnancy is uncomplicated, and you both feel up to it, you can dance in the sheets until your water breaks. Men often feel a little ignored because everything is so centered on the baby, so I always encourage couples to have sex because it helps keep them bonded.
Actually, sex may be more fun during pregnancy precisely because the pressure is off. If sex had begun to seem like a chore because you were working overtime to get pregnant, now it’s all fun and games. And if you’ve spent most of your reproductive years trying not to get pregnant, well, you’re out of the woods there too.
Plus, let me tell you that mothers-to-be have sexual urges too, so if you think you have to pace your enthusiasm because she won’t want to do it, think again. I asked some friendly doctors to answer the most common questions they get asked about sex from pregnant couples and here’s what they had to say.
Is it safe?
As long as there are no associated conditions like a low-lying placenta, infections of the cervix and vagina, an incompetent cervix or multiple pregnancies, it is safe to have sex during pregnancy. The most important factor is the comfort and readiness of the woman. Having said that, every pregnancy is unique and I suggest you talk to your doctor before you get busy between the sheets.
Any pre-sex precautions?
It’s important for you to be gentle as the tissues in the vagina are sensitive at this time. Many women also experience extreme sensitivity in their nipples and breasts, so the woman should take the lead and communicate what’s comfortable for her. Some women bleed a bit after sex. While spotting is common, do discuss it with your doctor.
And since we’re talking about nipple sensitivity, maybe during pregnancy you can try giving your woman a breast orgasm instead of the traditional vaginal one. Check out my Boobgasm program and I’ll show you that all women can orgasm via breast stimulation alone. Yes, you read that correctly. And it’s not that difficult either, I promise you. Just check out my program and see for yourself.
What positions are okay?
In the early weeks of pregnancy, you can try positions you are used to and comfortable with. When the bump starts to show, it’s better to avoid the missionary position. From the second trimester onwards, the most comfortable position would be sideways or with the woman on top.
Is oral sex allowed?
My doctors wave the green flag on this one. There should be no problems. Care should be taken not to blow any air into the vagina, as this can lead to the blocking of blood vessels. Also, if you have a viral infection, it’s better to avoid sex until you have recovered.
What about sex toys?
If you’ve been using accessories to amp up the fun, you might have to put them back into the cupboard for a little while. It’s better to refrain for reasons of hygiene and safety. The fear with the use of sex toys is that you might not be able to control the depth of penetration. Also, sex toys may be carriers of infection if not cleaned properly.
P.S. Pregnancy sex is amazing. A woman’s body is filled with hormones during this time and many women are actually hornier now. That’s why I think it’s the perfect time to try to give her the elusive breast orgasm. My Boobgasm program is everything you need to learn how to best play with her ladies to unleash a most powerful and unique type of climax.