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The definitive guide to going down on a woman

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The definitive guide to going down on a woman

The definitive guide to going down on a woman

There is no bigger bedroom blunder for a woman than when a man doesn’t know how to go down on her properly. That’s because cunnilingus is simply amazing. So when a man just clearly has no idea what he’s doing down there, it really is disappointing for a woman. Nobody wants to be that man, but unfortunately, knowing how to go down on a woman isn’t exactly part of our sex education curriculum. (Though, it should be.) Fortunately, performing cunnilingus is a skill where you can totally up your game, whether you’re new to it or are a vagina-eating veteran. Yep, there is always room for improvement. 

That’s why I decided to dedicate my upcoming Naked U to this precise topic! Naked U Season 8 – The Oral Obsession Edition is cooking and will be live and up for grabs really soon, but while you wait let me give you some starting pointers for you to practice. 

The first step to being amazing at performing cunnilingus is to familiarize yourself with the female anatomy. I mean, you’re not going to win any battle without first understanding the terrain. But let’s assume you know where all the hotspots are (after all, you’ve been reading my blog for a while now) and want to know how to take your techniques to the next level. Well, in that case, here’s what you have to do to earn yourself an enthusiastic thumbs up for going down.

Slow it down

The first thing you want to do when you’re going down is to… slow it down. After all, it’s an orgasm, not a race. Most of us move more quickly than we intend to when we’re excited, nervous and aroused. Whatever your inclination is with regard to speed, cut it in half and then cut it in half again. Trust me!

Build anticipation

When you’re turned on, you might be tempted to rush to the finale, but you’re only selling her short. Create delicious tension by slowly turning up the heat. Don’t make the mistake of rushing and going straight for the goods. Instead, build anticipation by touching, caressing, feeling, licking, kissing, and breathing all over her body — slowly. Make her wait to intensify the impact once she finally gets what she’s begging for.

Use your breath

Most of us overlook one of the best weapons in our sexual arsenal: our breath. Not sure what that means? To use your breath to its greatest and most pleasurable potential, control its temperature by exhaling slowly with a wide-open mouth to release warm air or pursing your lips and breathing gently to release cool air. Once you’ve mastered that technique, lick a line from the fourchette (the fork in the road where her lips meet at the very bottom of the vulva) to the head of the clit at the top — slowly — and then breath subtle, warm air over the wet path you’ve created.

Circle it good

Once you’ve built up the anticipation and driven your partner wild with your breath, don’t blow it with poor clitoral technique. While everyone’s vagina is different, you don’t want to begin with a full-frontal assault. In translation, don’t press it like an elevator button! Instead, continue teasing by slowly circling your tongue around it to tease and tantalize before pressing your flat, wide tongue against it gently to allow the pressure to build.

Pulse for her pleasure

When your partner climaxes, they will experience pleasurable contractions that begin in the pelvic area and radiate out. Give her a helping hand to heighten her pleasure: press a wide, flat surface (for example, your tongue, the palm of your hand, or a flat, vibrating toy) against the length of her vulva or the head of her clitoris and pulse gently.

Keep an open dialogue

If you really want to blow her mind, you need to know what works for your partner, so don’t be afraid to ask for feedback. You may be capable of making miracles in the bedroom, but you don’t have to be a mind reader. Ask simple yes or no questions while you learn what works best for her, as well as watching for the non-verbal cues, like the rhythm of her hips.

If all of this sounds like a lot of work, well, yeah, it can be. But anything worth doing in the bedroom is worth doing well. And I want to help you do just that: ace oral with flying colors. In order to do that, keep your eyes peeled for my latest season of Naked U, the 8th! Called The Oral Obsession edition, it’s got everything you need to become the oral master you strive to be. The launch will happen really soon, so don’t miss out!

Hot kisses, 

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. Techniques aside, the most important thing to remember when you go down on someone is to do it with passion, curiosity, and the desire to please. If you start there, everything else will follow. 

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