One of the very first things you probably notice about a woman is her breasts. There are a lot of men out there that are downright obsessed with boobs, but even those that aren’t totally crazy about them admit that they are still an important part of their attraction to a woman. With all of the attention that men give a woman’s breasts, you would think that he would be all over them in the bedroom, but oddly, that’s not the case. Most men pay very little attention to women’s breasts during sex and not much more during foreplay. It’s hard to know why this happens, but one theory is that many men don’t really know what women like when it comes to breast play, so they just end up focusing on other areas instead. Unfortunately, if you do this, you’re missing out on a major pleasure center for women. The breasts are a wonderful and important erogenous zone and deserve A LOT of attention. With that in mind, here are nine things that you just HAVE to do to her breasts:
1. Know that every woman likes something different – Just like with anything, every woman likes something different when it comes to breast play and it’s your job to find out what your partner likes. Don’t assume she will like the same thing as the last woman you were with. Some women like rough play, biting and pulling on their nipples, while others might literally cringe at the thought of anything but a feather light touch. Then there are a million other things between those 2 extremes. Get to know what she likes. And just to throw you for another loop, what she likes might also depend on what point she is at her in menstrual cycle. Many women get sensitive and sore breasts and nipples before or during their period.
2. Start slow and soft – If you’re not totally sure what your partner likes when it comes to her breasts, it’s important to start slowly and softly. You can always increase the pressure, but it’s a big turn off to be too rough with a woman who’s not into that. Begin by tracing your fingers along the outer areas of her breasts. Lightly run your finger along the underside of her breasts and breathe warm hot breath over her nipples. Her breasts (not just nipples) are full of nerve endings and light touching will send heat waves right to her genitals.
3. Don’t go straight for the nipple – In fact, you want to avoid the nipple all together for a few minutes. Stroke, draw circles, kiss and lick the other parts of her breasts, but only breathe hot air over the nipples and don’t make any contact with them at all. They will be tingling with desire and she’ll be hyper aware of how they feel because she’ll be dying for you to touch them. No matter how much she seems to want you to touch her nipples, hold out for a few minutes and tease her. Believe me, it will be worth it. She’ll be soaking wet and going crazy by the time you run your tongue over them for the first time.
4. Find out what she likes by ASKING! – Most people have a really hard time talking about sex and what they like and don’t like in the bedroom. Even though it would greatly help their sexual relationship, most people don’t like the idea of talking about this aspect of sex with their partner because it embarrasses them! If you feel like that, don’t worry, you’re not alone. And even if you’re totally comfortable talking about sex, your partner might not be and that might make it difficult. So, here’s how you can talk about sex and find out what she likes and doesn’t like without making it awkward. Ask her simple questions in the moment. Things like “do you like that?” “do you want me to go softer/harder/faster/slower?” “show me where/how you like to be touched” will give you a lot of important information and if you ask them the right way, it’s more like dirty talk than interrogating her about her sexual preferences. Just be careful not to ask her too much about what she likes, or you might seem insecure in yourself and your skills. Make a point to check in with her about something you’re doing each time you’re intimate and that way you get a lot of information without asking too many questions.
Oops, sexy! We’re all out of time for today, so you’ll have to stay tuned for my next article to get the other 5 tips on the hottest breast play ever. Believe me, they’re worth it!