German gynaecologist Ernst Gräfenberg first identified the g-spot some sixty years ago, and ever since the sexual health world has been on fire with the debate over its existence. If you have ever been on the wet end of female ejaculation, you won’t have any confusion about its existence! So why can’t scientists decide?
It seems to have a lot to do with the method of study, according to researchers who completed a recent study of 1800 British twins at the King’s College in London, published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine.
Clinical psychologist Andrea Burri, lead study author, thinks the problem is in how we ask the question. In her study, the scientists opted not to perform physical exams on the women, but rather asked them a subjective question: whether or not they identified having a “so called G-spot, a small area the size of a 20p [5 cent] coin on the front wall of your vagina that is sensitive to deep pressure?”
Only 56% of women answered in the positive, and there didn’t seem to be any genetic correlation. But how many women have been with a man who has made a priority of finding her g-spot?
Scientists in the study did find that women who identified experiencing g-spot sensation tended to be more adventurous and open to new experiences. Do these women take the time to explore themselves when their men don’t? Or perhaps they are more likely to encourage a lover to move in a new way?
Studies in recent years have shown that women with thicker vaginal tissue between the vagina and the urethra, where the g-spot is thought to lie. A new study under review shows greater promise, using ultrasound to image the reproductive tissues during intercourse, has identified the area they believe to be the g-spot.
This area, known as the Skene’s gland (or the lesser vestibular glands, periurethral glands, skene glands, paraurethral glands, and female prostate) is named after the gynecologist who first identified it, Dr. Alexander Skene. The glands are inside the body, between the urethra and the vagina, surrounded by clitoral tissue. It is capable of producing fluid, similar to that produced by the prostate, though often contains (harmless) trace amounts of urine. Most women who experience g-spot orgasms also ejaculate, though as science has shown, not all women enjoy this kind of stimulation.
Will She Like It?
It is possible that your lover simply may not enjoy g-spot stimulation at all. Just as some men aren’t fond of internal prostate stimulation, some women will not experience pleasure from direct g-spot touch. So if she hasn’t responded well so far, should you just give up?
Of course not! There are a few things you can try together, to see if her disinterest is an issue of biology or psychology.
Relax and Enjoy
The best place to start a g-spot journey is in the water. Be careful when enjoying any kind of sexy time in a pool, hot tub, or even the bath or shower. Fingering with any kind of force, or engaging in intercourse under water, can force the liquid through the cervix and into the uterus. All the chlorine, fluoride and other chemicals can wreak havoc on your lady’s lady parts, so be careful!
The easiest way to approach the g-spot in these situations is with no thrusting at all. Simply insert two fingers gently into the vagina, using your erotic touch skills to locate the change in texture or density that identifies her g-spot. If you have trouble finding it, improvise for now. Just a few inches inside her canal, on the upper wall of her vagina angling toward her belly, you should encounter a bit of a swell, or a rough patch, or maybe just a spot that gets a reaction!
Instead of thrusting in and out, simply crook your fingers in towards your palm, putting pressure there. For many women who struggle to let go and release the liquid pleasure inside, being in water for this incredible experience can help ease some of the pressure and fear of making a mess.
If She Doesn’t Feel It?
Don’t give up. If she’s not interested, don’t push the issue, but time does change all things! Some day in the future, an inexpensive g-spot sex toy might inspire you to try again. Just remember, just because a woman doesn’t necessarily enjoy having her g-spot rubbed, doesn’t mean that female ejaculation is a nonexistent or mythical phenomenon. Join the g-spot truth movement! Spread the word.