Knowing more will simply help you to give your partner more of those intense orgasms she craves, so why not learning something new every day?
My experience has thought me that men often assume they know enough: where their partner likes to be touched, how fast she reaches orgasm, her favorite positions and so on.
But when talking to the women, I realize that’s not true at all. Most of the time, women complain about how impatient their partners are, how little they care about foreplay… and often they admit their own faults in this: “I pretend I looove doggie-style so much, just because I know he likes it. The truth is, I actually hate it because I can never reach orgasm while sitting with my butt in the air like that. Now it’s too late to tell him the truth…”, says Claudia, one of my dear friends who wishes to rebuild sexual communication with her husband.
Female orgasm is much more complicated than you would like – trust me, I’m a woman and I wish it would be easier to reach erotic bliss whenever I want to. But female anatomy is just much more… unforgiving if I may. While men are biologically wired to reach orgasm fast and ejaculate in order to procreate, a woman can get pregnant without reaching orgasm, so her body is simply not built for fast climaxing.
But maybe this is a blessing and not a curse. You’ll have to work together in order to make sex greater and this will enrich the sexual experience for both of you. Here are the subtle things you need to know about female orgasm in order to make it possible every single time:
Her self-esteem matters
There is scientific proof that the way a woman feels about her herself and her genitalia is linked to the quality of her orgasms. Every vagina looks different and there is an ideal shape or size, but she still might be worried about how you view her intimate area, especially since you have access to X-rated videos with professionals who look camera-ready.
It’s very important that you tell her how much you like to be inside of her, that she looks sexy and that you looove seeing her naked. Being comfortable around you is the number #1 thing that will help her reach orgasm faster and more often.
Novelty always helps
If she’s having trouble reaching orgasm, maybe you should analyze your erotic routine a bit more: do you always do it in the same positions, at the same hour? Maybe it’s time to switch things up. It will be a lot easier for her to experience orgasm if you incorporate more than just one sensual move. That’s why I always recommend oral sex as foreplay. Building arousal and sexual tension will increase her chances of reaching a bigger, stronger climax.
Orgasm gets better with age
This is one advantage women have over you: their orgasm actually becomes more intense as they age. As your partner gets older, the quality and frequency of orgasms can improve – a study showed that 61 percent of women ages 18 to 24 experienced orgasm the last time they had sex, 65 percent of women in their 30s did, and about 70 percent of women in their 40s and 50s did.
Older women are more experienced and more confident in the bedroom. They’ve learned what they like and which are the key moves to a great climax. Another important aspect is being in a long-term relationship: when a woman truly trusts her partner, she can relax and truly enjoy the erotic journey.
It’s important to find her G-spot
While you might be skeptical about this elusive spot, you need to know that it’s real and it will help your woman experience longer and stronger orgasms. Its location may be slightly different in all women, but most often it’s found inside the vagina and is characterized by a “rougher” texture. It requires deeper penetration in order to be stimulated, but I recommend finger play at first – you need to be certain of its location and type of stimulation it needs in order to give her powerfriul sensations. Just experiment together when you’re relaxed and in the mood for sexy play.
P.S.: I want you to learn that great sex is those little details most men overlook. To be a great lover is to pay attention to all her triggers. If you want to learn more precious information about her G-spot, I recommend you check-out my program on the matter – G-spot Orgasms Made Easy.