Cunnilingus – what a complicated name for a complicated business. Just kidding! Pleasing your partner with your mouth shouldn’t be guesswork, but I get why it’s still something you’re not confident about.
If done right, all women LOVE oral sex, because it’s that one form of stimulation most likely to give them an orgasm. That’s because your tongue is the most powerful muscle in your body and also the most sensitive – the chemistry is simply irresistible, and when you add your lips to the mix, she will have no choice but to surrender to waves of continuous pleasure.
Still, many women say they don’t like what their partners are doing and many men actually avoid going down on their lady because they’re not sure what they’re supposed to do. I blame the lack of effective communication for this: if you would be willing to learn more about her preferences on the matter instead of pretending you already know everything, you would become the expert she craves. If she would choose to guide you instead of pretending what you’re doing is right, again – she would receive that orgasm she craves.
It’s not easy to give her exactly what she wants because when it comes to oral sex, intuition is just not enough. Every woman is different, so experience doesn’t really matter. You have to discover together the types of stimulation that make her hungry for more.
The good news is that by now I have a pretty good idea about what most of the women I’ve worked with really want when it comes to oral sex. There are a few techniques they have agreed on, and I’m willing to share them with you.
Here are the women approved techniques you should try on your lady tonight:
Start off with a little hand play
A lot of women agreed on this: they like it when you play with your hand first until they get warmed up. Rub her clitoris slowly using the palm of your hand, but do it over her underwear. You will feel her getting wet. When that happens, take off her underwear and continue to massage her clitoris with your hand. Kiss her mouth, her neck, her breasts… then press your mouth on her clitoris and move slowly in circular motion. This will drive her crazy.
Experiment with your tongue
You don’t have to get it right from the start. Just remember that there are a lot of things you can do with your tongue and she’ll not love all of them. But to find out what she likes, you have to try everything. You can make your tongue flat, pointy, stiff of soft and you can draw circles, suck, or flick – just ask your lady what feels good and you’ll hit the jackpot eventually.
Swirling
A lot of women also suggested swirling your tongue around her clitoris in small circles, clockwise and then counter-clockwise. You’ll certainly find the right spot, just listen to her moans.
Reverse hug technique
A lot of women like the reverse hug technique. If you’re in good shape, you should nail this hot oral position. Hold her upside down in front of you – her head and shoulders should be on the bed while her back should rest against your chest and stomach. Hold her up a bit so that you ease the pressure around her neck. Then wrap your arms around her waist and lower your face between her legs.
Start with a softer tongue
For a lot of women it’s important that you use the flatter and softer part of your tongue, especially at the start, when she may not be fully aroused and not ready for the pressure and speed that the tip of your tongue will bring.
Make out with her clitoris
A lot of women suggest you treat your intimate area like their mouth – just make out with it. Start with soft kisses all over, then bring your tongue in, slowly at first. Don’t rush it, just try to be sensual. Let the tongue go deeper, suck the clit AND the whole intimate area, then go back to just using your lips. Have fun with it.
Eat her from behind
A lot of woman like oral stimulation from behind – it feels a bit different and it turns them on. Use your flat tongue to apply pressure on her entire pussy area, use your fingers to penetrate her vagina and then slowly make your way to the clitoris and stimulate it with circular motions.
Hot kisses,
Gabrielle Moore
P.S.: Baby, oral sex should be fun, so don’t be afraid to experiment. Challenge your partner and try all of the above moves, then let me know what she liked the most. If you want to learn some seriously advanced oral sex techniques, I recommend you check my sexy program – Oral Rapture!
