If you’ve ever fingered your lover’s vagina while performing cunnilingus on her at the same time, you know it can be sexual TNT. One reason the combination is so explosive is that the clitoris and G-spot are as intimately connected as the head of your penis and its shaft (some men don’t excel at coordinating mouth and finger play well because they don’t realize this).
Men need to stop thinking of the clitoris, G-spot, perineum, anus and cervix as being separate spots on the treasure map of their lover’s genital area. They’re more like power stations connected by underground cables, and what happens with one is immediately felt throughout the whole system.
To a lesser extent this connectivity is present throughout your partner’s entire body: If you’re rubbing her big toe with gentle, loving strokes, her clitoris and G-spot (and everything else in her body, too) feels the pleasure. Around her vagina the connections are just closer and more direct.
Using this insight allows you to give your lover intense pleasure. And since we’re on the topic of intense pleasure, check out my friend Susan Bratton’s Orgasmic Breasts program. You will LOVE the tips you discover here!
Imagine this: You’re massaging your lover’s vagina and she’s rolling from one orgasm to the next. To give her a different sensation, you squirt some lube in your mouth, warming it, then bend down so that your mouth is just over her clitoris. You drizzle the lube onto your fingers as they continue to pleasure her pink nub. The lube works its way down over her clitoris, down onto the fingers in her vagina.
You bend down even more and, taking your left hand away, take her clitoral shaft into your mouth. You gently suck it while you continue to finger her. A more common variation is to change your position so you’re laying between her legs, your fingers in her vagina and your mouth over her love button. Treat yourself right by slipping a pillow beneath her pelvis to relieve any strain from your neck. Press your shoulders into the backs of her legs, supporting them, so she can drape her legs over your shoulders or let her feet rest on the bed.
To take full advantage of the interconnectedness of the G-spot and clitoris here’s what to do: Insert two fingers into her vagina and make the “come here” motion on her g-spot. Spread your tongue flat, and run your tongue from just above where your fingers have entered her vagina, up over her clitoris, and then press your flat tongue against her clit, holding your tongue still. This grounds your tongue on her, and gives her a chance to push against it for more stimulation.
After ten to fifteen seconds, back off a bit and stimulate her more directly with your tongue. An excellent move is to mimic what your fingers do in a vaginal massage: No need for fancy tongue work, just use the tip of your tongue on the upper left quadrant of her clitoris, keeping a steady rhythm, until she orgasms. Once she does, you might have to stop licking if her clitoris gets too sensitive. Let her guide you as to when to stop and start again.
Note that many men make the mistake of performing cunnilingus like the actors in porno movies. Don’t fall for this. In porno, the camera needs a good view of the vagina. So the actors performing cunnilingus keep themselves at a distance, swiping at the clit as if trying to lick the top of an ice cream cone with just the tip of their tongues. What feels much better to your lover is to smother the clitoris and surrounding area with your warm, wet mouth, and then use your tongue in a much broader gentler, sensual way. (Pretending to “make out” with her vagina and clitoris can give the softness that feels right to her.)
You can really take advantage of the connection between the G-spot and clitoris by literally pressing them together: As your fingering her G-spot, apply more pressure straight up, toward your tongue, which is on your lover’s pleasure button. Experiment with pressure. Press your tongue down and your fingers up and use very small movements to lick and stroke. This allows your lover to focus on all the sensations coming into her. Keep this up until she orgasms or gives you an indication that she might like you to do.
You want to give your lover plenty of sensations when you’re tonguing and fingering her, but you can also play with sensitivity. Here’s what I mean. If you press and hold your flat tongue onto your woman’s clitoris, while you press and hold your fingers on her G-spot, you are giving her a single sensation. As she focuses on that one sensation, she may become more sensitive. Then, when you move your tongue or fingers, it’s like a flood gate opens and sensations pour into her. (If you are vigorously moving your fingers and tongue at the same time she’s getting a lot more sensation, but she may not be as sensitive.
Hot kisses,
Gabrielle Moore
P.S. Are you ready to go back and forth, playing between sensitivity and sensation, using your tongue and fingers to orchestrate a wonderful symphony of pleasure between your lover’s legs? What about her boobs? Check out my Boobgasms program and incorporate what you learn in your erotic routine.
