Slow sex was built for women. Women naturally desire sex that is connected, earthy, sensual, and artistic. We want the permission to be turned on. We want our men to help us reach that goal.
But how do you do that? How do you slow down sex and help your partner feel a kind of pleasure she has never felt before?
Before I take you through my very own slow oral sex technique, I have to tell you about my friend Mariah Freya’s Yoni Massage course, which teaches you the right way to treat a woman’s vagina – like royalty! Every couple should study and practice this massage technique!
Part One: Preparation
Make every move a move of drawing her out, rather than going in and finding her. Let your only desire be to extend her desire; to get it to reach for you. In the process you are giving her the rare opportunity to feel the depth, weight, and power of her very own hunger. Help her welcome the experience of high sensation, so she can start to go toward it instead of pulling away. You are giving her that gift when you go slow.
Part Two: Coaxing her orgasm into bloom
If she is not already naked, help your woman take off her clothes. Go slowly; show her that you care about every button, every hook, every zipper. Sit her down on the edge of the bed and kneel down in front of her. Remove her socks one at a time; help her slide her pants off.
Slowly slide up her body, keeping yourself an inch above her. Make sure you are straddling her but not touching her. Reach for both of her arms and spread them open. Press them down into the bed until you feel her let go.
Put your face near her neck, under her jawline, so that your lips almost touch her tender skin. Bring your mouth over her nipple and let the moist heat of your breath cover it, as if you were fogging up a window. Now, hover your mouth over all of her stomach and breasts, breathing against her body with a slow hot breath. Continue down her body, down her thighs.
Part Three: Drawing Out Her Orgasm
With one soft finger, gently skim along her inner labia. Add lubrication if that would feel good. Bring your finger to rest just below her clit, slowly moving one millimeter closer to her clitoris without touching it directly.
Bring your tongue down to her inner thighs. Lick the inside of each thigh as you would lick an ice cream cone that is dripping down the side. As her desire builds, begin to suck very slightly against her inner thigh.
Lick the outer rim of the outer labia on both sides. Then, draw your tongue up the center line of her vagina, slowly washing over her clitoris. After a few gentle strokes, take the whole of her clit into your mouth. Draw it in. Move your tongue along the bottom ridge of the clit, where her inner labia begin to separate. Move in up and down the ridge, sucking gently as you go.
Part Four: Going Deeper
While you are sucking her, take two fingers and slide them inside her. Reach up inside her, to the spot that would be the back of her clit, and you will find a spot right there that is soft, like the top of a baby’s head. Rest your fingers there. You do not need to move. Just press very gently.
Begin to move your tongue in a slow rhythm that she can catch on to. Then continue to apply pressure with your fingers, while sucking and moving your tongue over her. As she climaxes, stay present. Stay connected. Do not try to rush things; simply magnetize her orgasm toward you. When you feel her relax, stretch out and lie on top of her until you can feel every part of her body exhale.
Hot kisses,
Gabrielle Moore
P.S. Do you know what kind of sex a woman truly desires? The kind that turns her on, the kind she enjoys just as much as you do?
To learn more advanced tips and techniques on how to make her orgasm, I recommend you check out my program – Her Secret Hot Spots. You’ll discover the 5 secret erogenous zones that will drive her wild every night!
