“My mother told me that life isn’t always about pleasing yourself and that sometimes you have to do things for the sole benefit of another human being. I completely agreed with her, but reminded her that that was what blow jobs were for.” – Chelsea Handler
Naughty girls can teach good boys a few things about oral, and sex in general. And when I say naughty girls I don’t mean Playboy bunnies, porn starlets or Pamela Anderson, mind you. I mean girls who know what they want in bed and are not afraid to say it in their most awesome and desirable orgasm voice. If enjoying sex makes me, for example, a bad girl, I’m more than happy to assume the title, thank you very much. Therefore, in order to help you put you’re A game when it comes to toe curling cunnilingus, I’ve talked to women and asked them bluntly what it is that they want. Their answers are simple and all you have to do is follow them “a la lettre”.
1) Verbalize. Understand this is an immutable truth: when it comes to oral sex, women want to be sure you’re feeling pleasure as well. Otherwise we’ll start thinking we’ve somehow forced you into doing what you otherwise wouldn’t and we won’t get any pleasure at all from the entire experience. Only when you are satisfied and we can see our down there region and what you’re doing with it have made you satisfied, will we be truly satisfied ourselves. So speak up. Talk to us during oral sex. Tell us what you want to do to us next, how good you feel when you kiss us there and you touch us like this. But without babbling. Nothing’s worse than running commentary, fake smiles or insincerity. Also, ask us if we’d like something different, if there’s a certain touch we’re fond of or certain moves that are proved to get us there. We’d love the same openness when we perform oral sex on you. If we’re not hitting the right spot, we want you to point us the right direction. All penises are different. Sometimes even the most experienced women can find themselves lost down there.
2) Remember there are other spots too. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but simplicity isn’t always the answer when it comes to oral sex. It’s not enough to just suck on the tiny clitoris like there’s no tomorrow and expect a woman to be done in sixty seconds. Use your fingers and palms to arouse the entire vaginal area, not only the clitoris. Also, practice double arousal movements, for example massage our thighs and buttocks while you’re swirling your tongue up and down our vaginal lips. And don’t forget our breasts! Nothing will gratify a woman more than a man who pays attention to her entire body. This means taking it slower and building arousal step by step, which is the most important thing when it comes to how a woman is supposed to enjoy the full oral experience. And try to maintain some level of eye contact while you’re down there (we’ll thank you later).
3) Initiate. When it comes to oral sex, don’t expect a woman to bluntly ask for it. She’d rather go without. Be the lead dance partner in this game and she’ll thank you for it. Place your hand under our skirt while we’re still at the dinner table. Stop us on the way to the bedroom, push us against a wall and go down on us. Stop mid-session, take us to the bed and continue. Be just as audacious as you’d be when it comes to sex itself. Tie our wrists to the bedposts, blindfold us. An assertive man, especially as far as oral sex is concerned, is very appealing.
4) Don’t forget the love. Inside every bad girl is a soft center as well. She might want it hard and aloof a lot of the time, but at the end of the day she’s just as vulnerable and sensitive as any other woman. She wants love too. She’s just prepared to enjoy herself in the process of finding it. It just boils down to one thing in the end: a woman is looking for great sex with intimacy, empathy and attraction. If the physical and mental attraction is there, the sex is electric, the post-coital conversations are entertaining, and if you spoon, she’ll love you forever. Love is everything, even for sex crazed people.
Have a spectacular week,
Gabrielle Moore
P.S. You might think it’s kinky, animalistic, and “out there”, but it’s not a woman’s idea of a great time to be pulled into a French kiss straight after you’ve swallowed her juices. We love that you do that, don’t get me wrong – but the last thing we want to do is taste our own sort of ejaculation. To discover more advanced tips and techniques about oral sex CLICK HERE NOW!
