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5 common oral sex problems and how to fix them

5 common oral sex problems and how to fix them

No two vagina owners like exactly the same thing, and the best way of finding out what feels good to the lucky lady you’re going down on is to ask her. That said, certain cunnilingus frustrations arise more often than others – that’s why I decided to show you the most common ones and what to do about them.

Her va-va-voom doesn’t exactly taste the best. Ok, actually, it tastes kind of yucky, but this one is an easy solve. Suggest taking a sexy pre-cunnilingus shower together and experiment with flavored lube – some non-sticky options are sweetened with stevia, meaning that they won’t give your partner a yeast infection. I can tell you firsthand that the salted caramel flavor is delicious. I’m serious, I’ve tried it when giving my partner a blowjob and he also tried it on me, attesting it was indeed a great improvement to the whole thing.

She’s about to come and you don’t know how long you’re supposed to keep going. There’s a fine line between “oh my god that feels incredible” and “oh my god please remove your mouth from my sensitive vagina immediately”, and that line, I can tell you from personal experience, is usually after orgasm. When your partner says “I’m coming”, keep going until they have, in fact, come – verbal warning are great, they both tell you to keep doing what you’re doing and prepare you for the final explosion of pleasure – and then lay off the stimulation unless encouraged to do otherwise.

You can’t establish a rhythm. Consistency is key to bring a vagina to orgasm and making it waterfall-wet, but you can’t keep a beat to save your life. Try synchronizing your movements to your hookup playlist, moving your head up and down to the music – it might sound silly but can help get you into the movement.

Your jaw is aching or your neck needs a break. There’s no rule that says you have to keep your tongue in frantic motion until your partner comes. Take a break and rub your penis against her lady parts, use just your hands, or stroke your partner’s thighs while your jaw relaxes – that vagina probably won’t suddenly go dry just because it’s not making direct contact with your lips. Also, if you’re getting tired of controlling the motion, have your partner take over by placing a hand on the back of your head or holding your hair, and guiding your head back and forth, or lie on your back and have her straddle your head. Discuss either one of these beforehand – that’s just basic bedroom manners.

She takes for-ev-er to finish. This is a question of knowing when to stay the course and when to mix it up. If you’ve been doing circular movements and you feel that she’s about to come, don’t suddenly switch to something else. If, however, you’re looking to vary the stimulation, I recommend gripping the base of your partner’s labia with a churning motion using either one or two hands (and a dash of lube or spit) while the clitoris is in your mouth. Focus on it by licking it, flicking it with your tongue, and squeezing it between your lips, and don’t neglect other sensitive parts of your partner’s anatomy, caressing the insides of her thighs and the anus, if your partner’s into that. To add a vibrating sensation, try humming while the clitoris is in your mouth or even placing a vibrator against your cheek.

Finally, remember that your preferences matter as much as your partner’s. If you can’t stand doing it for longer than 10 minutes, don’t do it. If you don’t want your partner to “bury” your head between her legs, pushing hard with her hands and leaving you breathless, tell her you’re not comfortable with that. You are the king of your own cunnilingus castle. Go forth and rule.

Hot kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. No matter how many times you’ve given your partner oral sex, these tips are just what you need to make your already stellar cunnilingus even more fun and pleasurable for you both. If you want to learn more details, click here.

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