Women don’t always understand that an erection is actually a complex and sensitive mechanism which sometimes can fail if the elements in its composition are not in order.
One of these women told me recently, with a worried tone, that she’s dating a 26-year-old handsome man (a few years younger than her) who, surprisingly, is unable to have and maintain a full erection. “How is this possible at 26?”, she asked with indignation.
But erection problems are not always age related — all men can live this dreadful and embarrassing experience. The key is to know that you are not alone and that this is not permanent.
Let me explain this better. When you become sexually aroused, hormones, muscles, nerves and blood vessels work together to create an erection. The brain sends nerve signals to the penis and stimulates muscles to relax. After this, blood is allowed to flow to the tissue in the penis. Once the blood fills the penis and an erection is achieved, the blood vessels to the penis close off so that the erection is maintained. Following sexual arousal, the veins to the penis again open up, allowing the blood to leave.
But there are certain factors which disrupt this precise mechanism. The most common causes of erection problems in older men are due to a lack of synchronization between your brain and body, this is called desensitization — this video, written by my friend Richard Geller explains it all very well and will help you eliminate the causes for good).
But the Journal of Sexual Medicine reports that 26 percent of men ages 17 to 40 also experience trouble having an erection (and the cases range to moderate to severe). So no matter your age, my experience tells me that the key is to approach the problem from multiple angles to make sure you finally enjoy — and offer — great sexual pleasure. Please take these factors into consideration:
The anxiety factor
Stress and anxiety can kill or even prevent an erection from happening because essentially everything our body can do is activated by our brain. When this wonderful organ is overwhelmed, so is your “sexual instrument”. Anxiety has a physiological impact on your body as it causes the release of stress hormones, such as cortisol. These hormones cause a disruption in your normal bodily functions, inflame your prostate and inhibit your reproductive function.
I am not going to sit here and tell to quit stressing like many doctors would — because I know stress is not something you can easily control or prevent. When your sexual performance is at stake, anxiety can achieve the maximum level, making it impossible to get the erection of your woman’s dreams. And that complicates things because it introduces frustration and disappointment.
Relaxation should be the top priority for you. To stop your mind from playing games with you, keep your body active: do a workout which releases feel-good hormones, like boxing, weight training or swimming. In addition, try some herbal tea with calming properties, like chamomile or peppermint — the menthol contained in peppermint is a natural muscle relaxant.
The lifestyle factor
Even if you don’t necessarily have erectile problems, you should still consider this factor, because it will help prevent it in the future. Your lifestyle has a great impact on your health and therefore on your body functions.
Nutrition is key when it comes to a healthy erection. Try to stick to a balanced diet composed of quality carbs, protein, and veggies. Cut sugars as much as you can because it causes an uptick in your blood’s glucose levels, which stimulates the release of the hormone insulin. That inhibits your body’s testosterone production, making it tougher for you to get it up, as confirmed by a study from Irish and American researchers. (This sugar-insulin-testosterone connection also explains why your testosterone levels are higher in the morning when you haven’t eaten for hours.)
Sleep in another big factor. If you sleep five hours a night (or even less) your chances of getting an erection decrease by almost 20 percent, found a study from the University of Chicago. Sleep is essential for testosterone production. In other words, sleep is essential for testosterone production — make sure you get 8 hours a night.
The position factor
Switching up your sex positions can do wonders for your erection. First of all, the more visually stimulating ones will help you get hard fast, so identify your favourite sex positions and start with those.
Second of all, gravity may play a serious role in this business. Experts advise you to avoid “the girl on top” in the beginning, because gravity will drain the blood from your penis, leaving both you and your partner unsatisfied. Instead, choose the positions which allow you to get on top, like missionary and doggie-style, because those will seriously help with blood flow. But remember — at the end of the day, you know what turns you on the most, so stick to that.
Darling, a complex mechanism requires a complex solution, so feel free to combine all of my advice and get things moving down there. And whatever you do, don’t let your own mind stand in the way of your pleasure. Every problem is temporary and I know you’ll get through it. I’m wishing you great sexual health.
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