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How To Delay Your Orgasm

“Remember, if you smoke after sex you’re doing it too fast.” – Woody Allen

Mocking a man’s speediness is common amongst groups of girls – I’ll be the first to admit that when a guy blows his load before I’ve even said “Oooh,” I’m telling my girlfriends about it. And we all laugh.

The fact that a lot of men can’t always last that long in the bedroom is both funny and serious – it may be reassuring to know that it’s so commonplace we ladies expect – it’s not surprising when we encounter “early bloomers.” However, for a lot of married couples, a quick finale can be extremely disappointing and can really put a damper on a couple’s sex life.

If you want some tips on lasting longer and some advice on how to delay your orgasm, you’ve come to the right place. Now just take a deep breath, relax, and remember what is written below…

Slow down
Everyone wants to skip the meal and go straight to the dessert – besides, it’s the best part! I understand why you want to rush to the sex part and get your gears grinding, but there’s something to be said about a slower pace. Moving a bit slower can help you to hold off your release in different ways – this is especially true when it comes to foreplay and trying different sensation-stimulating movements. During intercourse, stop ramming yourself in and out of her like a jack-hammer and try a calmer, slower rhythm. If you feel yourself reaching your breaking point, pause for a moment or change positions. If you keep doing the same thing your body isn’t going to react in any way other than ejaculating. Switch things up. Don’t stick to one configuration or speed level.

Listen to your body
Most guys are so wrapped up in the pure ecstasy of sex that they go blank and suddenly, it’s over and they “come to.” This is a big no-no. How are you going to know your body if you’re not paying attention to your physical impulses? By heeding the above tip and slowing things down, you can concentrate on your biological reactions to various stimuli and, therefore, have more control over your body, thus delaying the big E.

One of the most memorable guys I was ever with was completely in-tune with his inner mechanics – we would reach a pinnacle and he would suddenly flip me over and, before re-entering me, he would kiss or lick my neck, shoulders and down my spine, and then we would resume. He could go as long as I wanted. It was an amazing experience.

Maybe your weekly sex romps are simply not often enough, meaning you’re like an anxious puppy – when you finally get some action you’re so overly excited you have no self-control. And what this tells me is: you need something to allow you to have a release between sex sessions, and that’s called masturbation. Men who masturbate on a regular basis are able to make love for a longer period of time. They’re also more familiar with their bodies and reactions, and can therefore “fend off” urges more easily.

Like I always say, lasting longer means better sex, and if you can learn how to delay your orgasm, both of you will enjoy it even more.

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  1. tony

    December 4, 2010 at 12:15 am

    Thank you for taking the time to answer my question it seems to work. I’ve noticed that I’ve been able to last longer more and more each time. If you have any more tips please let me know them. Thank you so much once again

  2. Ernie

    December 4, 2010 at 1:07 am

    After my wife gets hers it’s my turn. I’d love to go longer but sex becomes painful due to her age and my length. This necessitates me having to finish quickly or risk not getting mine sadly. Oh, and oral is strictly just for her pleasure. Any real thoughts? She isn’t changing so that’s out.

  3. kamal

    December 4, 2010 at 6:17 am

    Dear Gabrielle ,
    You are right 100 % . FRom getting necked and getting dressed , while we are in bed , it takes 2 hours and my girl friend is always highly satisfied and always merciful .
    We are very happy in bed thanks to your lessons .
    All my love . Your welcome to check lol

  4. NF

    December 4, 2010 at 7:06 am

    what about the opposite problem……..taking too long to experience an ejaculation (if it occurs at all)?

  5. peace

    December 4, 2010 at 8:48 am

    well gab,

    is not so easy to many people.but i think you need 2 practice with your girl. feel free to ask her to help well you do thing’ don’t rash, you wont be able to carver or tent in or out on the road if u speed.

  6. pammileo

    December 4, 2010 at 8:52 am

    these are practical solutions and actually work, but require practice

  7. lanai

    December 4, 2010 at 12:51 pm

    Sex is a beautiful game
    The way it flows exciting the mind
    Playing the field with a partner or lover
    When the game starts the fire burning

    Premature ejaculation hit the guys
    The fastest failure of the sex drive
    Many guys have this sexual inadequacy
    Until the women look elsewhere

    Once a young man called his scout master
    Telling him about his problem on his marriage
    During his honeymoon he ejaculated too fast
    Leaving his bride frustrated in their honeymoon

    He called up his scout master
    Asking for advice on his predicament
    The scout master duly told him to masturbate
    Few hours early before he enters his bride

    It works wonderfully for the guy
    He praised his scout master for his advice
    Now I learned it too prolonging the activities
    Going off too fast frustrates the lover

    I agree with you about foreplay
    It is this part many failed to perform
    Maybe it is time constraint
    Family and work commitments

    Hit the sack and go to sleep
    Give the obligations forget others feeling
    Giving the excuses of work and time
    Leaving the wives or girlfriends crying in the darkness

    Enjoy sexual drives
    There must be time
    Don’t do it in a hurry
    As you rightly said

    p/s thank you for your tips and articles

  8. John

    December 5, 2010 at 2:46 am

    Thanks for the posts Gab. I realized long ago that masterbation helps you last. Afew years back, I also found that male masterbation toys helps even more. Using the ones with ribbed tunnels help to desensitize you for a few hours or sometimes days, not a permanant thing though. Extended use can help you last last for thirty min- several hours, even to the point where you have to focus the have an ejaculation. I have been using this method for over ten years. I have even rigged a flesh-light to a drill and with an extensive amount of lubercation no man can last more than a min. with that spinning on your manhood. Afterwhich I can pound my woman for hours and choose when I want to go. Just a suggestion…

  9. russ

    December 5, 2010 at 8:07 am

    hi gabrielle
    i have a problem getting and maintaing a erection i get a erection but doesent get real hard and goes soft very fruststing have you got any advice help or exercie
    thanks russ

  10. Jermaine

    December 5, 2010 at 4:09 pm


    Very nice article, miss. My fianace and I are always shocked that I can last so long even though we are always so hungry for eachother. I think its from the thousands of keegles I’ve done, and the mental focus I maintain to make sured what I’m doing pleases her. Switching positions is a great tactic as well.

    Happy Romping

  11. vincent

    December 5, 2010 at 8:29 pm

    Thanks gabb for the tips.I will use them and see what happen.I love these tips keep them coming.

  12. MT Guy

    December 6, 2010 at 7:06 pm

    Just an excellent post, Gabrielle. I wish I had read it when I was 18 instead of 58.


    December 7, 2010 at 4:36 am

    Hello gabriel thanx for the lesson am going to try it with my girlfriend.just keep on helping us

  14. Big Guy

    December 10, 2010 at 5:08 pm

    Gabrielle thanks so much for the illustraed sample of oral on her , it has helped me tremendously, The wife has been low libbo for the past 2years. My ministrations down there and her doing Kegal excersises have improved blood flow to that area. she confided this morning when we spent the day together(non sexual) activites, she become very wet,and excited being near me. Her Work stress is very great, and any time away from it she enjoys. Thanks again, she comming backalive sexually.

  15. yemmy

    December 11, 2010 at 9:59 am

    What is normal length of time required,from penetration and ejaculation, of a man to last?

  16. Hawi

    December 20, 2010 at 1:13 pm

    Dear Yemmy – just 20 minutes from start of penetration. Imagine. That short…..

  17. ABBAS

    December 22, 2010 at 11:37 am

    Dear Yemmy i have a problem of having short pennis almost 11 cm this can the the reason for dissatification to my woman? cause always i fill inferior to my fellow

  18. abc

    December 23, 2010 at 7:31 am

    It is great. Please give tips to women also for pleasing their bed parteners

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