The title of this article might have hooked you into clicking on it to read it right away, but I promise you, this isn’t just a flashy title meant to catch your attention. You can actually masturbate on a daily basis AND be a better lover. No, I’m not talking about jerking off in order to get release your sexual tension. I’m talking about an actual plan for lasting longer in bed that involves YOU getting to masturbate. Sounds pretty fun, huh?
Well, luckily it can be. But what I’m going to propose isn’t just touching yourself like you have been doing for years and years, this is an actual strategy to get you to last longer in bed and please your partner more.
* Make Masturbation Productive and Mindful – I’m not just talking about a good orgasm here, but I’m referring to changing the way you think about masturbation. What is it for you now? A way to relieve stress in your life? Relieving sexual tension? Just to feel good and have an orgasm? To overcome horniness? These are all perfectly fine reasons to touch yourself, but if they are the ONLY reasons you are doing it, you’re missing out. Masturbation can be a way to learn about your body and how to use it. It can be a way to learn how to be a better lover. What you need to do is be thoughtful when you masturbate, don’t just rub one out without thinking, but really start to pay attention to what is happening to your body and your thoughts when you’re doing it. Sounds good, right? But, how does a guy masturbate productively and mindfully? Keep reading…
* Go slowly – One big mistake that boys and men make when they masturbate is to go too fast. It might be because they don’t have a lot of time, they’re nervous about someone catching them in the act, or they just want to have an orgasm as quickly as possible. One thing is for sure, masturbating too fast won’t help you last longer, it can even hurt your chances for lasting longer in bed. So stop it right now. If you don’t have time to go slow, don’t do it. Wait until you have more time and jerk off then. It’s important to break the habit of cumming really quickly, no matter what the situation is. The other reason you don’t want to masturbate quickly is because you can’t take time to observe your body and learn about yourself when you’re doing it too quickly. It’s impossible to be mindful if you’re too rushed.
* Observe your body – You need to go slow enough to be able to observe the changes that happen in your body from beginning to end. A guy who has really mastered this will be able to pinpoint exactly how far away from orgasming he is and be able to take action towards controlling how long he lasts. As your masturbating notice the sensations in the beginning. How aroused are you on a scale from 1 to 10 when you start? How quickly do you escalate to a higher level of arousal? Are you able to maintain your arousal at a lower number or even a higher one for a longer period of time? Does it feel like you don’t have control over how quickly you get aroused and then cum? The first step is to go as slowly as possible and observe all of these things. Notice how different ways that you touch yourself get different responses from your body. This might be in the way you actually touch your penis, the speed and / or the intensity. In order to see how your body reacts, try different things and see how your sensations differ.
* Bring yourself to the point of orgasm – Once you have observed yourself, you will start to notice the sensations you feel when you’re really close to cumming. Once you have pinpointed that point of orgasm (also known as the point of no return), you can start training yourself to last longer. As soon as your recognize that you are getting close to the point of orgasm, either slow way down and only touch yourself very softly and slowly, or stop completely, in order to avoid cumming. There might be a few times that you aren’t able to stop yourself and that’s okay. It will take practice and time to learn exactly when you need to slow down or stop. Once you’ve mastered that skill, force yourself to last longer by not allowing yourself to cum over and over while you masturbate. It might be hard and a little uncomfortable because you know it will feel so good to give in and cum, but you will get great results if you can control yourself. First, you’ll notice that when you eventually cum, it will be way more intense because it has built up over a longer period of time. Second, this will help you to be able to last longer in bed as well.