This is the second part of my article about the best ways to amp up your couple erotic experiences. Here are the other two moan zones that I’d like to discuss with you. For the first two, check out my previous article.
Moan zone. Your core
Yes, your core. Researchers studied exercise-induced orgasms and found that they are most commonly brought on by abdominal workouts. Coregasms are real – for both men and women! After all, exercise and sex are similar in more ways than one. For instance, they can both turn you into a sweaty, endorphin-flooded mess, and they both offer plenty of heart-healthy benefits. Turns out, engaging your lower-ab muscles – while exercising or fooling around – may exert pressure on your genital organs and by contract your pelvic floor muscles (the ones you hold pee in with) you can actually improve your chances at having a really powerful orgasm. Basically, it’s like killing two birds with one very pleasurable stone. Even if it doesn’t lead to an orgasm, the lower belly is a great place for you to tease your partner and for her to return the favor. The closer touching gets to the pubic area without actually going there, the more you’ll build arousal.
To strengthen your own ab-penis connection, work hanging leg raises or 50 to 100 crunches into your gym routine. Cardiovascular exercise helps to keep the heart strong and your veins and arteries in good condition. That’s essential for good sex, since blood flow is a necessary part of sexual arousal. There’s also the fact that exercise helps you stay flexible and boosts your general endurance – great for the times you want to go all night. When it comes to how you can actually engage your core – lower belly when you are in the bedroom, ask your partner to lightly trace her fingers over your lower abs when you and her are making out. You can also have her gently kiss the area as she makes her way downtown for oral. During sex – especially girl-on-top or doggie style – ask your partner to squeeze her abs and pelvic-floor muscles to make her orgasm even stronger, and to make your penis feel better in the process, because this will also create a tighter grip on your little guy – an incredible sensation for you.
Moan zone. Your voice
Nothing makes sex hotter or more satisfying than speaking up about what you want. After all, how will your partner know that you like your nipples licked as well or that you hate when she blows in your ear. That’s part of what makes your voice no just an erotic instrument but a true power center – you use it to communicate. Using your words is the most straight-forward way to get exactly what you crave when an urge hits. And once you’re comfortable talking to your partner during sex in your own preferred language, you’ll become a pro at confidently saying yes, no and “could you keep doing that?”.
Nobody likes having quiet sex or even silent sex. It’s a complete turn-off and a recipe for a very dull sex life. The first step in learning how to talk dirty is understanding why you should be doing it. It builds sexual tension, which is key for more intense sex, and it keeps you and your partner in the moment. But I do understand why dirty talk might scare you at first. For many people, using dirty words to talk seductively can feel super cheesy or porno-like. And it’s okay to feel that, it’s not completely untrue after all! If that’s your main fear, I would suggest using instead dictionary terms (penis, clitoris) or coming up with your own slang that isn’t so four-letter-word dependent, such as giving your genitals an actual name (“Betty really misses Derek”). When sex starts, use deep groans to signal you’re enjoying yourself. You can also describe in detail what’s happening in the moment. What is your partner touching? How does it feel? What does it make you want to do next? A universal pleaser: telling your partner when you’re in the process of going over the edge.
P.S. For more tips and tricks on improving your bedroom romps and build yourself the sex life you’ve always dreamed off, check out my program on the matter – The Three-Dimensional Lover – Your Guide to Being the Man She Fantasizes About.