It’s easy to fall into a routine, especially when it comes to foreplay – or lack thereof. These sex games concentrate on the journey, making the final act especially naughty.
You need: a timer
How to play: Pick a time interval – 15 minutes, let’s say. During this time, tease each other with kissing, touching, and other forms of foreplay. But no matter what, absolutely do not go for penetration until that time has elapsed.
Why it works: Most busy couples have foreplay down to a science, or rather, routine. Time tease refocuses you on the pre-game show, the part that used to be so much fun before things got serious between the two of you. You’ll be surprised by how much slowing down changes things. You get really creative and really turned on.
You need: a scarf
How to play: Blindfold her. Lead her to the bed or other locale, then proceed to lavish her – slowly, recklessly, teasingly – however you feel like doing it. You call the shots. Let her arousal be your guide.
Why it works: Not being able to see during sex has two major effects – it dramatically increases both sensitivity and psychological vulnerability. Either one is a powerful aphrodisiac. Together they can create a love explosion.
You need: Four neckties, or some elaborate restraints available at sex toy stores or online.
How to play: Tie her wrists and ankles to the bedposts and have your way with her.
Why it works: It can be incredibly erotic for a woman to be completely powerless, to be the absolute center of your attention and to have no responsibility for or sway over what happens.
You need: A hairbrush, riding crop of just your hands.
How to play: Ask her to tell you all the things she did wrong today. (She failed to take her coupons to the grocery store. She forgot the name of her new receptionist at work. She told your nagging sister to go to hell.) Then have her kneel on the bed while you spank her using your hands, a hairbrush or a not-too-scary disciplinary accessory.
Why it works: Spanking feels good, actually. A smart smack on the butt creates a tingly, alert sensation that combines well with the other feelings of sex. These sensations are especially interesting if you combine them with playing with her other body parts on display during your spanking. This is an excellent time to try inserting a vibrator.
You need: A deck of cards and a timer.
How to play: Give each card a sexy meaning: hearts represent kissing, diamonds equal a massage, clubs signify hands-on stimulation, and spades are oral. The number on the card represents the number of seconds each sexy act should last. Take turns picking cards and teasing one another.
Why it works: This exciting game of foreplay will make you move at a teasingly slow pace that will leave both of you ready for more. You can make the moves even more intense by doing them for minutes, not seconds.
You need: Nothing but your lover’s body.
How to play: Either lie back or kneel with your eyes closed and mouth open. Then have your partner tease you by placing different parts of her body against your lips or tongue, like a nipple or a finger, thus encouraging you to please her. Then you can switch places.
Why it works: Aside from how pleasurable it is for your woman to get those parts licked and kissed, it’s erotic for you to wait in anticipation of what piece of her will arrive next.
X marks the spot
You need: Nothing.
How to play: Start by urging her to think of a particular body part that she’s dying for you to kiss. She should keep that body part a secret. You’ll try to guess the spot by kissing a body part – and keep going until you guess correctly. She decides if she wants to be fair and stick to one spot… or keep you guessing.
Why it works: It’s a simple game that doesn’t require any toys or props – perfect for when you want to infuse a lot of excitement for little effort.
P.S. Who said playing is just for children? It can be the hottest activity for consenting adults as well. For more tips and advice on spicing things up in the sack, check out my program by clicking this link.