“An orgasm a day keeps the doctor away.” – Mae West
Somewhere between foreplay and fornication there are a few special minutes when we can go the extra mile, taking our partner to new heights of ecstasy and memorable love-making moments. In these moments immediately before intercourse, we women can go from gently warmed to boiling over and ready to blow!
If you want to go from having subsistence sex to being the star of your wife’s bragging praise, this brief time must be maximized. Think of it like the last aftertaste of the appetizer on your palate, just as you start to get the first whiffs of the main course coming out of the kitchen. Savour it!
Get Warmed Up
The most obvious signs of arousal is in the place you should place most of your attention during this exciting energetic peak – her genitals. She will likely become wet, but don’t use this as your only gauge. A woman’s lubrication response changes throughout her cycle as well as generally diminishing as she ages, not to mention varying slightly from woman to woman.
The other physical signs of arousal are fairly simple to detect, if you know what you’re looking for – warm, flushed skin; faster breathing, moans and sighs are great signs. If you push the limit and try to give her an orgasm during foreplay, you can have her begging for sex before you even begin! This kind of open communication shows that she is in the now and really enjoying the experience. Follow her lead and if she tells you “Yes, more, don’t stop” then, well, don’t stop!
Love It!
If you’re just going through the motions to get to the orgasm, it will show, and what is there to get excited about that? One of the most important things to get your lover turned on is to emphasis just how much fun you are having! The lusty grin on your face when you get close before oral and get a real good look at her, a soft sigh or moan of “Oh my God”, even just a deep rumbly growl in your throat will let her know that pleasuring her is a big turn on for you too, setting her free on the sensual roller coaster ride.
Make her feel good by doing things that feel good for you too! If you know that you’re going to cum eventually, take your time and make sure she reaches maximum pleasure before you worry about your own erection too much. She’ll definitely appreciate the effort! If you make her orgasm the focus of the experience, you’ll both have fun and have the confidence and desire to fully satisfy each other more often.
Go All the Way
So how do you make sure she gets to that sweet spot? For women, the experience of multiple orgasm is much easier to accomplish, leaving no excuse not to make her cum first. The techniques for pleasuring your wife during foreplay are many, but the key to bringing her over the edge is using multiple moves at once.
Hands and fingers on her breasts and nipples, lips and tongue on her inner thigh and clitoris, along with your encouragement and sounds of enjoyment will bring her over the top in no time. Just don’t approach it like a race, or she’ll feel pressured. Keep mixing it up until you hit her pace and follow it all the way to the finish line… then get ready for another lap! When she seems like maybe she can’t take anymore, be sure to try some manual penetration using your fingers or a dildo to stimulate her G-spot.
Sexplay is the culmination of many foreplay techniques, the masterful execution of several skills that lead to satisfying sex sessions. Who doesn’t want their orgasms to be better, longer, more frequent, more reliable, more exciting? There is no reason to pass up the chance to learn everything you can about the components of foreplay.
Happy lovemaking!
Gabrielle Moore
PS. What other love blunders have you or your friends committed over the years? Share it with me in the comments section.
On another note, if you want to learn advanced foreplay techniques, check out my video program on the matter – Dripping Wet Secrets.
