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It’s All In Her Head: Six Steps to Smart Seduction


It’s All In Her Head: Six Steps to Smart Seduction

It may seem cliche, but there is no hiding from the fact that the key to turning a woman on is through romance. The female brain is designed to seek security and reliability, where the male brain pursues sex much more ruthlessly. Turning on her body, whether it seems easy and straightforward or a maze of complexity, is still only the second step to the sex you seek. Before you even get close, you need to seduce her mind! These six simple steps will have her putty in your hands and eager to explore.

1. Eye Contact
Did you and your wife ever have that moment, early on in your relationship, gazing across the room at each other with the sparks flying? Do you remember how that moment felt, year heart thudding in your chest and your breath fast in your throat? There was a time when I would have given anything to feel that excitement again, and I’m grateful for it every time my husband gives me a playful wink or a suggestive eyebrow-raise from across the room.

2. Kissing
Sure, a smooch on the way out the door and a few hot wet ones before sex are great, but don’t you ever just miss making out for the fun of it? Kissing is one of the best forms of foreplay available! Lots of women appreciate some lip action without the immediate expectation of sex. Why not warm her up a bit in the morning when she wakes up and leave her to simmer all day? When it does come to sex, mix it up a bit! Light kisses on her eyelids, nose, neck and other erogenous zones will have her warmed up and begging for more in no time flat.

3. Taking Control
Who initiates sex in your relationship? If it’s you, what’s your approach? Many people shy away from taking the reigns in sex – if you aren’t very confident or knowledgeable about pleasing your partner, it can be hard to make the first move with grace and strength, but this is what so many women crave!

Let her take control if she expresses an interest and don’t get offended if she gives you suggestions. When you want to start the scene, be open and honest. Tell her your desires and be ready to guide her in giving you what you want. A strong majority of women are interested in having their hair pulled, their bottom spanked or their wrists cuffed during sex, so no matter what your fantasy, open your mind and let her know – chances are she’s into some roleplay too!

4. Communication

Intimate Talk
Stop beating around the bush. We all have dreams, fantasies and desires and who better to help us experience these things than the love of your life? Sitting down to talk about your sexy secrets over an intimate dinner can open up the path to role playing your wife’s rescue fantasy, purchasing a sex toy together or donning a costume or uniform… but only if you’re willing to risk embarrassment and speak up!

Dirty Talk
Once you’re comfortable discussing your sexual fantasies in the low-pressure zone, it’s time to take it up a notch. When things are getting hot and heavy, the easiest way to get the dirty talk going is to talk about what you want your wife to do to you… or what you can’t wait to do to her. When you’re in the moment, you can draw things out by describing how the experience feels. This will not only allow you to spend more time together, but will heighten your excitement and hers.

Non-Verbal Cues
The four main categories of non-verbal clues should come as no surprise: hugging, kissing, touching and looking. The best foreplay involves all four techniques, to stimulate the mind and body in as many ways possible.

5. Support
Trying new things can be scary and she will need your comfort and support when working to define her needs and wants. When you’re in the moment, encourage her when she does something you really like – be clear and concise! If she’s doing something that isn’t particularly pleasing, gently guide her hands or mouth somewhere else, and save the critique for later.

6. Confidence
Aside from praising her skill or technique, practicing the art of compliments in other areas will not only be greatly appreciated, but will allow your partner to feel more comfortable relaxing and opening up to you about her deepest desires. Be honest and tell her what you really love about her.

Foreplay is an art form and there is always more to learn. Once you’ve mastered these steps to smart seduction, why not go even further and learn the 8 essential kissing techniques every husband should have in his repertoire? Click this link and try something new tonight!

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  1. Wisdom morgan

    January 31, 2011 at 4:17 am

    Very nice

  2. colin painter

    April 9, 2011 at 7:24 am

    hey gabby u are good with your info of sex thanks colin

  3. TG

    April 9, 2011 at 11:34 am

    You know what,you have come to my rescure coz i did not know all of this which helps alot in providing good sex to my partner.

  4. Rayne

    April 9, 2011 at 2:09 pm

    It’ has been and always will be the 23 hours before penetration that determines how good her orgasm will be.

  5. Vicky

    April 11, 2011 at 10:10 am

    i love this technique and all the others u have been sending me…thanks

  6. Joserthesav

    August 14, 2011 at 10:21 pm

    Fort of all any. Man that can’t satisfy their laity is a sorry as fag. Now as 4 me I hallways. Make Shire that she gets hers. Right befor she’s going to bust a nut:-P I then have to get mine :-\

  7. Jacques, Belgium

    August 15, 2011 at 8:57 am

    Gabrielle, There is much concurence in all these offers, but you’re the best in explaining all this stuf. Congrats

  8. DON

    August 15, 2011 at 11:24 am

    Thanks for your mails and contribution towards mankind.

  9. Oettinger

    August 15, 2011 at 2:08 pm

    HI Gabs,

    another subject though, i took your advise on anal to the bedroom and wow i cannot believe the difference a little bit of massage and play and warm cloths and soft and tender caresses and tender care could do. I think my marriage has just escalated to a completely different level of intimacy. I am just a little worried on how I will keep my baby busy for the next couple of weeks, because she is madly all over me. thanks you are the Maestro/ess. LOL kisses

  10. P-Dogg

    August 15, 2011 at 5:32 pm

    Great advice! how often we as guys forget the basics and need to be reminded… PS: I have no problem admitting your teachings have changed my life, thanks again:)

  11. cliffins

    August 15, 2011 at 10:41 pm

    Quite intriguing and fascinating indeed. Keep the candle of love burning as always.

  12. Fr John

    August 16, 2011 at 1:37 am

    Can’t fault you! This is all first class stuff, and breakers of barriers in the god-given art of love-making

  13. Witchyman65

    August 16, 2011 at 5:08 am

    It’s nice to have read a few titles of listed facts about better sex, for turning on my woman. I have a very dear friend in Washington, PA. as I told her my reason why I’ve put Dearest in the subject line a few times. Eileen has hugged me before & after every ritual & witch meetup. As she also held my hand during every ritual, as she sits by me at every meetup at Panera Bread in Triadelphia, WV, although I haven’t been able to go see her for six months, because of Lisa’s financial troubles.

  14. ala

    August 16, 2011 at 6:58 am

    it is a huge effort gathering these vital data to boom societies love spirit

  15. Mr, Lizard

    August 16, 2011 at 7:19 am

    I read your stuff all the time and must say I’m satisfied doing some of the things you post in your letters, but I have this young Fianci and I being Older than she are, and having alot of expereance, I’ve been trying some of your tecniques but she just don’t have a complete Orgasm, she gets to a point where she is turned on so that it look’s like she has gone wild, then she is tired and almost faints, she says it feel good and she want’s it every time I’m up,but I know she is coming short of an Orgasm, can you recomend some type of medication that might help. thanking you in advance
    I’m Mr, Lizard

  16. to

    August 16, 2011 at 12:41 pm

    this is wow and wow

  17. Vels

    August 16, 2011 at 3:57 pm

    Very nice and excellent tips

  18. Vels

    August 16, 2011 at 3:58 pm

    I always like Gabrie’s tips and giving first preference.

  19. DB

    August 17, 2011 at 6:37 am

    dear g

    thanks I had known all this still
    u revised every thig nice approach
    for couples to learn up refine adopt
    calmly enjoy and save future
    the depressions or…
    and concentrate on work when u r more
    peaceful and satisfied .

  20. Danny

    August 17, 2011 at 8:47 am

    Am becoming rich and rich in Sexual and Reproductive Health issues because of your articles.Am also helping others in these issues.Keep the fire burning and be blessed.

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