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Exposing the Oral Orgasm: Play Prep and Tongue Techniques


Exposing the Oral Orgasm: Play Prep and Tongue Techniques

“I regret to say that we of the F.B.I. are powerless to act in cases of oral-genital intimacy, unless it has in some way obstructed interstate commerce.”    — J. Edgar Hoover

Going down isn’t exactly an issue for Homeland Security, but it can be stressful for both partners if it’s not something you’ve tried for a while. According to the Kinsey Institute, this is a lot of you – barely more than half of all women aged 30-49 received oral sex from a male partner in the past year, and the numbers for women going down on their men aren’t much better…

So why all the fuss? Oral sex isn’t anything to shy away from! Talk to your wife – does giving or receiving oral sex make her feel anxious, scared or uncomfortable? What about you? Do you suffer from any feelings of inadequacy where your own oral foreplay skills are concerned? Well fret not. The basics of oral sex prep and technique are simple to master!

Getting Ready to Go Down

Bodies are sweaty, stinky beasts and though it is our animal instincts we want to get in touch with, we want to get sweaty together between the sheets, not deal with office BO, so get clean first! Take a long, thorough shower before initiating sex and while you’re all wet, take a look at the hair down there. Few people enjoy a face full of fur, so if you want to encourage your wife to keep clean and trim bush, you need to do the same. A body wax isn’t necessary – a trim or some Nair should do the trick and leave her pleasantly surprised!

This isn’t high-stakes finance, so don’t get stressed out, but it’s important to talk about oral sex a bit beforehand, so there is an understanding about protocol when you in particular are closing in on the big O. Whether you want to pause and move on to another position, or push through to climax, it’s important to have an understanding and an early warning system in place! No one likes to be caught off guard and if you want to keep getting blow jobs, you’ll let your wife have a say in how to finish things off.


Variation is the key for oral foreplay – start a good oral session off right with gentle, smooth strokes around the least sensitive parts of her genitalia, working your way towards the inner lips and clitoris. Be delicate! These bits are soft and sensitive.

A figure 8 motion is great to get her turned on, edging around her little bud as it swells. Alternate between the smooth underside and the rough surface of your tongue’s tip to bring her to the edge of pleasure.

Don’t stick to any one repetitive motion for too long, until she is panting hard and ready to go over the edge. When you’re at this point, find the motion that makes her moan the loudest and take it home!


You may not be able to think of a lot of different positions for oral sex off the top of your head, but put those tired old favorites out of your mind, if just for a minute. There’s nothing wrong with the standard fare, but why not spice things up once in a while?

Do you and your partner have any classic positions that work every time? How often do you try something new when you lock lips, so to speak? Well now is the time! Don’t worry, you don’t have to worry about trying anything crazy that will end in an embarrassing injury!

One of my favorites is to get my husband to lie over top of me, perpendicular to my body. From this position, he has free range to caress my breasts and can explore an entirely new angle for clitoral stimulation! This position also makes it  much easier for him to use his other hand to penetrate when I’m wet and turned on.

Another that could encourage your partner to explore a whole new realm of both physical and emotional sensations related to power and control is a standing position. With your head hanging over the edge of the bed, your lover can straddle your face and has room to lean forward on the bed for support when her knees start to get weak!

Can’t get enough of these great ideas? Click the link below for 10 more incredible oral sex positions you have to try!

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  1. icez

    February 1, 2011 at 10:08 am

    thanks… gab

  2. Mike

    March 12, 2011 at 5:36 am

    Gab: I just got after a long spell gone. I was reading your e-mail and really like what I see. I was wondering if you have a complete list of your books and their discriptions?

  3. Shawnna Hickonbottom

    August 20, 2011 at 7:35 am

    Your post is short by taking the value of information and straight to the point. It has been a delight to go through. Thanks!

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  5. Natasha

    August 20, 2011 at 2:36 pm

    I’d have to check with you here. Which is not something I usually do! I enjoy reading a post that will make people think. Also, thanks for allowing me to comment!


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  7. Reg Clark

    August 21, 2011 at 1:53 am

    I like 69 with the partner facing my penis on her side and me facing her vagina on my stress or hands and knees to move around and it can be as fast as you want it to be …I prefer clean shaven for her but am reluctant to try to trim myself with scissors or a razor ….

  8. DB

    August 21, 2011 at 5:01 am

    nice way presentation apprecited

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  10. Greg

    August 21, 2011 at 12:27 pm

    Hi Gabrielle, I do oral for my wife any time she wants, 365 days a year, yes even when she has her period, she calls me a vampire, and also when she is giving me a golden shower, I’ll give her a good licking at the same time. But she is older now and going through changes, she only wants to play around once every month or two, and locks me out of the bathroom. I’m kind of put out to pasture, almost 100%, what should I do ? Also she never gives me oral any more, even after a long shower, I’m extremely clean.

  11. Ramo

    August 21, 2011 at 4:47 pm

    This is great. I love a very cleqn shave because i keep one but dont know how 2 tell my partNer to get a clean shave. Feel I would be embarassing her

  12. Basant

    August 21, 2011 at 8:13 pm

    Hi dear gabrielle thanks for your tips…..!

  13. Jimmy R. Lowe

    August 22, 2011 at 4:09 am

    GABRIELL; you are the type of woman I would love to have I truly love all the stuff that you write about. KISSES FROM JIMMY

  14. Anthonio

    August 22, 2011 at 6:37 am

    Wow, dis is good, u no d first day i will hav sex will b a great day.

  15. Jammin'

    August 22, 2011 at 10:22 am


    I guess when it comes to “going down” on a woman – I’m like an animal. It’s instintual.

    I feel it, I smell it, I eat it! And 99.9% of the time – I get her off – like gangbusters!

    Now, I’m not into golden showers or blood – and she has to be very clean -and I’ll be happy to “clean her up”, dry her off – and then work her so good – IF -she can get up, she will need to get bathed again!

    Although she doesn’t have to be “clean shaven” – I do prefer it. If she wants me to, I trim or shave – either one of us. I do it – because I had a girlfriend – who wasn’t so good with a razor. And that was the last time I let anybody work on my balls – with a razor!

  16. TAPAN

    August 22, 2011 at 11:37 am

    Hi Gabrielle Many Many thanks for Tongue Techniques Pl.I want more about ORAL SEX & Tongue Techniques

  17. alnice

    August 22, 2011 at 11:42 am

    your e-mails is a motivational tool and the stuff is all essential and edifying.Thank you Gab.

  18. MT Guy

    August 22, 2011 at 3:33 pm

    There are some excellent bits of info in this article, Gabby. The lying at a 90? angle one is particularly enticing – I’ve never tried that and it would make it easier to add simultaneous manual stimulation to her G-Spot a part of the technique.

    Thanks once again for some good ‘news I can use’!

  19. Jaeleen

    August 23, 2011 at 6:17 am

    Great article ~ thanks so much!

  20. sesz

    August 23, 2011 at 9:35 pm

    i agree presentation is good but sometimes it puts women off they know ur expecting then so sometimes ya can neva win !! + i love givn my gf oral its tryn get her in mood ive tryd everythink but wiv kids an work an wat not she dont relax easy then wen she does she goes to sleep!! x

  21. Francis Radice

    August 24, 2011 at 8:22 am

    Thanks for all your help and inspiration.
    However I get remarks from myt lover such as
    1 We don’t do that in Lithuania
    2 Men’s cocks are different in Lithuania
    (I laughed when she told me this)
    3 When I go down on her and ask if she likes it, she just says
    ‘If you like it, it’s good.’ I find it difficult to persuade her she has a right to pleasure too.
    I don’t know if you have time to comment on these points.
    Love from Francis

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