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Amazing Afterplay: Keep the Romance Coming!


Amazing Afterplay: Keep the Romance Coming!

“Joy blooms where minds and hearts are open.” – Jonathan Lockwood Huie

When it comes right down to it, great sex isn’t all that hard with the right tools, foreplay, sexplay and aftercare – in other words, lots of attention and an open mind. You may struggle every step of the way with confidence and communication, but there is always help available if you’re willing to ask for it. Don’t make excuses for a bad sex life – do something about it.

We All Want It

You can psyche yourself out of revealing your secret desires all you want, but the truth of the matter is that we all like sex! There is just no getting around it. We may have different physical and emotional blockages that stop us from fully enjoying our bodies and the body of our partner, but when it comes right down to it we are all sexual beings. Ignoring that or convincing yourself that you are somehow strange or unique because of your fantasies will only lead to isolation and resentment. Sex is a normal, incredible, comforting, healing, stress-relieving, bonding good time!


If all your sex is after dark and you’re the roll-over-and-sleep type, you are neglecting an important part of the sexual experience – afterplay. Often called ‘aftercare’ by those who engage in powerplay and BDSM roleplaying, it is the opposite of foreplay. Whereas before sex you spend the time gearing up to a higher level of excitement, afterplay is about coming back down to earth.

Women take longer to relax and regroup after orgasm, and your lover may need reassuring or comforting regarding any issues or strange sensations that come up during play. Even a few sweet caresses and gentle cuddling can be enough to wrap up an energetic sex session to completion. Don’t leave her hanging.

Sex Schedules

Spontaneous sex is great, but to have time for all the foreplay and afterplay that goes along with sex, you’ll need to schedule time in your busy lives to relax and let go. Let your advance knowledge of your sex calender act as an aphrodisiac in and of itself! If you’re worried that a rigid schedule will take away from the spontaneity of sex, it’s time to get a bit more creative and come of with brand new ways to surprise and excite her in bed.

Sit down and talk it out. How much is enough? Too much? Are there times of the month that are better for sex than others? Don’t get too carried away – work on it together and come to a consensus for now. You can always change your mind later!

Marital Mediabooks, movies and more!

Aside from my own ebooks, the internet is a wealth of resources for curious lovers! There are thousands of books available from online resources, but the best way to find exactly what you want is to ask someone who knows. Couples-friendly sex toy retailers will have a wide variety of instructional books and videos, not to mention the offer of after-hours group classes and demonstrations, or personal instruction.

If you don’t need instruction, but instead are seeking just a bit of inspiration, try watching some good couple’s porn. If you haven’t watched porn in a while, or your wife is skeptical, pick a selection or two from the “Feature Film” for couple’s section. Porn has evolved into an interesting and complex art form with photos and videos available to satisfy just about any kink or plot preference! With any number of real-life or professional acted films from hilarious parody to art house indie, you can find something to please even the impossible prude. Check out great, edgy ‘legitimate’ cinema features like In the Cut, Secretary or Shortbus for a surprisingly sexy movie night without the stigma of porn.

Reach Out…

…and touch somebody. Sexologists, sex therapists and other sex professionals don’t just specialize in specific disorders like Erectile Dysfunction and Premature Ejaculation. They are trained to function as guides and mediators to help improve all facets of your sex life. If you are struggling, and at home exercises from my ebooks are not quite enough to push through a specific stumbling block, take the time to find a professional who suits your needs and desires. There is no reason to suffer with an unsatisfying sex life when the secrets to great love and pleasure are right in front of you, waiting to be discovered.

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  1. Mario

    January 1, 2011 at 8:57 pm

    Tank you Gabrielle. This article is really a good begin to 2011. I also wish you a very happy 2011!
    Best Regards.

  2. mmmmmmmmHOT

    January 1, 2011 at 9:26 pm

    A random comment about using fruit and vegis in the bedroom.

    1. Grapes and other small items… Be careful with these as if the string breaks or cuts through the fruit it may mean an embarrassing trip to the Doctor for an “extraction.” It happened to my girlfriend… lol Fortunately her lady doctor thought it was the funniest thing she had heard in ages, and they had a good laugh about it.
    2. Condoms and Food… Whenever we play with food in conjunction with the pussy, i always slip it into a condom first… One can never tell if the food is really clean or what may cause an allergic reaction on these sensitive tissues… and there is little that is more exciting than the look on her face as she rolls that condom over that great bit cucumber, before lubing it up and letting me slip it inside her,,, the same would hold for carrots, bananas, whatever… “wrap before inserting” is my rule, and it just ads an element of fun to the game…

  3. macuta

    January 1, 2011 at 10:17 pm

    thanks so much me and my husband are the most happiest couples in this world because of you live long and continue give us tips

  4. Gradus

    January 2, 2011 at 5:14 am

    Thank you for your New Year wishes and carry on, I am only 83 and learned a lot but still trying to succeed are you realy a woman

  5. felie

    January 2, 2011 at 5:37 pm

    at 53, you hve greatly helped me to improve my sex life. my wife, who was vey dull in sex, can now initiate sex and enjoy it.

    we are simply having a great fuck all because of you. we gonna fuck to shit the rest of 2011.

  6. R.G.68

    January 2, 2011 at 5:41 pm

    Thank you for all the efors you keep doing
    for a good ealthly sex live and relationships
    have a continuing very joy in 2011

  7. R.G.68

    January 2, 2011 at 5:42 pm

    Thank you for all the efors you keep doing
    for a good ealthly sex live and relationship
    have a continuing very joy in 2011

  8. ravi

    January 3, 2011 at 10:07 am

    Tank you Gabrielle. This article is really a good begin to 2011. I also wish you a very happy new year!

    at 43, you hve greatly helped me to improve my sex life. my wife, who was vey dull in sex, can now initiate sex and enjoy it and learned a lot from you,I think God made u as Woman in special time for special tips.

    Best Regards.

  9. lynn

    January 3, 2011 at 12:44 pm

    thanx Gabie Ure the best, hapi new year too

  10. Auxtin

    January 3, 2011 at 11:57 pm

    complimnt of the season ! this article tells it all.splendid!

  11. euclidcayz

    January 5, 2011 at 3:09 pm

    Actually you know hat you are doing and you give the world the truth behind the lovers, you are great!

  12. Purtsch

    January 6, 2011 at 7:28 am

    Thanks Gab, compliment of the new season. I have enjoyed and believe will enjoy more of your tips even these year.My wife is a very shy person, but with your tips wwe started to be more friends than husband and wife. Your tips on trying more positions brings confident to her. thanks a lot.

  13. mbali

    January 6, 2011 at 11:22 am

    Hey Gabbie dear this is a very nice article for the kick start of 2011 , happy new year to you

  14. mike

    January 9, 2011 at 5:01 pm

    hi gabbie , you are such a great sex inspirer you are the aphrodite of our times best of luv and respect may you be blessed with the euphoria of sex 24-7

  15. terere

    January 18, 2011 at 9:28 am

    compliment of the realy know your job becouse now you have turned me into a super sex star mwaaaa’ you are the best teacher ever.

  16. Mario

    January 29, 2011 at 3:28 pm

    I wish you an splendid weekend too. Here in Sao Paulo we are in a very hot Summer! During the last days I was avoiding to open my e-mails due to a problem with my Auto-Protect AntiVirus software but it was already fixed and I am returning to my readings. Best Regards.

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