“I blame my mother for my poor sex life. All she told me was ‘the man goes on top and the woman underneath.’ For three years my husband and I slept in bunk beds.” – Joan Rivers
The fact that your partner is finding ways to satisfy herself is great – even if it sometimes requires a household appliance (what can I say, I’ve learned that women’s pleasure is quite tricky). But always using the same technique when she masturbates can prevent her for climaxing with you, if she gets accustomed to that specific type of pleasuring. I have the fix, so read on.
Julie has amazing orgasms. The catch? They’re with her vacuum cleaner. “One time, I was straddling it and noticed it felt good. The intense vibrations against my clitoris sent me over the edge and it has become the only way I can get off”, she says. Julie’s technique is unique, but experts say the fact that she can have an orgasm only one way isn’t that rare. Many women train their bodies to climax with a specific move and then have a hard time reaching orgasm when they can’t get those sensations from a guy. Since finishing with you is the ideal resolve to any sexy romp, I got tips on getting the same feelings when you’re having sex together.
- What she needs… Grinding. Whether it’s rubbing against a piece of furniture or the palm of her hand, the reason women rely on this move is because of the allover friction it creates. The larger the area she stimulates (for example her whole down there region), the more nerves she arouses and the better chance she has at climaxing more powerful. In order for her to get the same type of sensation with you, make a tweak to the missionary position. Rather than lying between her knees, have her keep her legs closed and together as you enter her. The top of your shaft will rub against her clitoris, creating that same oh-my-gawd friction. You can also achieve this with a good and hard cunnilingus session. The catch: lick, suck and lightly bite her everywhere down there, don’t just focus on the clitoris or the labia. Start by creating large figures of eight with your tongue and move to licking every inch of her vaginal area: no exception. She’ll be moaning and climaxing in no time.
- What she needs… Strong vibrations. Powerful tremors – like the kind created by a vibrator or, er, vacuum cleaner – are the number one sensation women get hooked on. The reason: her clitoris has feel-good nerve endings that fan out around the vagina. So even if she puts just the tip of the vibrator on one spot, the buzzing sends tingles throughout all the neural pathways. To mimic this during your sexual act together, you’ll have to bring a vibrator into bed with you. Pick a position that gives you easy access to her clitoris, like doggie-style. As you thrust, use a pocket rocket – the smaller it is, the less threatened you’ll be – on her hot spot. Not only will she get the same sensations she’s used to, but you will also be moving inside her –which makes for an even more passionate finish.
- What she needs… Running water. Remember that scene in American Reunion where Alyson Hannigan’s character passes up sex for a solo session with her showerhead? That’s because it provides the perfect amount of pressure against a woman’s C-spot, while warm water boosts blood flow to her genitals. To re-create these elements together, you’ll need a bottle of warming lube. Add a dime-size amount to your penis, and have her climb on top, leaning forward as she moves up and down. She can control the pressure on her clitoris, just like she does in the tub. Plus, the lube increases blood flow in the same way and the fact that it gets warmer and warmer will resemble the feeling she gets from the hot water. The end result: a hot as hell finale.
Have a sexy week,
Gabrielle Moore
P.S. If you don’t know what kind of self-pleasuring she uses, ask her. In order for her to dare to fess up, tell her about your masturbation techniques. To discover more advanced tips and techniques about fingering CLICK HERE NOW!
