Since the Fifty Shades of Grey series madness, more and more women are getting intrigued by domination techniques. There’s something exhilarating in being possessed by a man who desires you badly but also knows exactly what he wants to do to you.
Plus, teasing has always been the sexiest anticipation in the bedroom, and women like it more than you because it helps them become VERY wet and therefore enjoy sex more and build a more explosive climax.
But domination as a concept is still dangerous territory for many women, and the reason is simple: some rough techniques can feel humiliating depending on their past experiences. They like the idea of losing control, but they fear things could get too far which also means ruining the emotional connection you’ve built so far.
Fortunately, orgasm denial is a subtle form of domination even though it’s extremely powerful. It’s mainly based on teasing and anticipation and can increase the intensity of an orgasm by 50% (actually, a lot of women experience a squirting orgasm thanks to this technique even if they never had it before in their lives).
Not only will your woman love to be dominated like this, but she’ll also feel more in love with you thanks to the incredible waves of dopamine her brain releases during orgasm denial. With every tease, she basically falls for you all over again.
What exactly is orgasm denial?
Orgasm denial is when you push your partner toward the edge of her orgasm and right when she’s about to explode you pull back and stop any stimulation, preventing her orgasm from happening. It’s very frustrating, almost torturous, but it can help both of you build the most powerful orgasm you’ve ever experienced.
Remember, you’re in control of her orgasm which means she can’t climax without your permission. If you’ve always wanted to play with power dynamics, this is a great way to start because most women won’t feel offended at all – on the contrary, the adrenaline will increase their pleasure significantly.
Orgasm denial is also known as “Edging” and it has become pretty popular these days with many people saying it is the biggest sex trend of 2019. I couldn’t be happier! I love how it adds a kinky edge to the play without putting the woman in an awkward position.
How to do it like a professional
It’s a bit tricky to do in the sense that it can sound a bit like torture: why would someone want to get so close to the climax only to be thrown back to the reality? I know, it’s hard to resist, but in doing so you’ll find extreme pleasure that almost feels too good to handle. And I think it’s something your lady will become addicted to!
Your goal is to maintain a high level of arousal without reaching release. It might be even harder for you to resist since a woman takes much longer to get close to the climax, but practice will take you there. As a matter of fact, this is also a great way to strengthen your erection!
If you feel you’re not there yet, you can use orgasm denial on your lady during cunnilingus – you’ll simply drive her crazy. You can use your tongue, but also toys, hands, dirty talk… anything that will push her to the edge of ecstasy. When you feel her clitoris pulsating, stop stimulation completely. Then start again.
If you’ve never done it before, just try aiming for 30 minutes of orgasm denial and see how things go. Also, I recommend an open conversation with your partner before attempting this kind of stimulation. I’m sure she’ll love the idea, but she needs to know exactly what will happen and that you’re not being cruel at all – you just want to offer her a higher form of climax. You can even suggest a safe word she can use if she feels uncomfortable.
To have full control over her pleasure and make the scenery even kinkier, I suggest utilizing restraints such as light handcuffs or tying your woman to the bed so that she doesn’t try to force orgasm in any way. You can alternate penetrating and oral to build arousal even faster, but you have to learn when to stop. Don’t worry – practicing will turn you into an expert!
Hot kisses,
Gabrielle Moore
P.S.: I encourage you to discuss your fantasies with your lady and try as many new and exciting things as possible this year because novelty will spark even more passion between you two! If you’re interested to discover more about female pleasure, I recommend you try my program – Flirting Fingers!
