One of the pleasure techniques that men don’t use enough in the bedroom is fingering. Even though using your fingers to pleasure your partner is a great resource, a lot of guys stop using fingering once they have already had sex with a woman. Maybe they think of it as a more juvenile sex act than intercourse, but that’s definitely not true. Whatever works to give your partner pleasure is a wonderful thing. So, with that said, what is the best way to use your hands to give pleasure? Check out the following 6 fingering techniques that will drive your partner wild with pleasure…
1. Circles over the hood – Many guys think that fingering is just inserting their fingers into their partner’s vagina, but it can and should be so much more than that. Fingering doesn’t even have to involve penetration, necessarily, in fact, this first technique doesn’t. This technique involves stimulating the clitoral hood, which is the area located just above the clitoral head. The head of the clit is extremely sensitive and should be avoided when you first start stimulating this area. That’s why stimulating the hood is a great way to get warmed up. Use some good quality lube and draw little circles over the clitoral hood with the tip of your finger. You can alternate between using the tip of your middle finger and your thumb.
2. The electric slide – Once your partner is warmed up and turned on, you can move on to the second technique, the electric slide. Take the same tip of your finger, lubed up and slide it gently up and down the length of her clit. Then slide your finger up and down either side of her. Sometimes directly touching her clit can still be too sensitive and in that case, sliding your finger up and down one side and the alternating to the other side can feel really amazing.
3. Stimulating the head – With any clitoral stimulation, you always want to be very gentle. It’s a really sensitive area, more sensitive than any area of your body, so it’s important that you always remember to have a very light touch. With this technique you will be directly stimulating the clitoral head with tiny, gentle circles with the tip of your finger. This technique should only been done after already warming your partner up with less direct clitoral stimulation. Watch for cues that this might be too much for her, some women love it and others find it too intense.
4. Finger fucking – This is the technique most commonly thought of as “fingering.” Although this is the most common way to finger a woman, a lot of men don’t really know what they’re doing here. You’ll use one or two lubed up fingers to penetrate your partner. Start with one finger and then move on to two if you think it’s necessary. Men think that women often want multiple fingers inside them, but oftentimes one finger is plenty to get the job done. When you start to finger her be sure to focus only on the first ? of the vagina. This is the part that has the most nerve ends (around the opening). Move your finger in and out, twisting your wrist around. This feels even better when you can combine it with clitoral stimulation.
5. Incorporating the G Spot – You’ve probably heard of the G spot before, but have you ever tried to find it and stimulate it? Here’s your chance. Insert your finger into her vagina about two knuckles deep. It is a small dime-sized patch of rough flesh on the inner wall of the vagina. It’s only really noticeable when a woman is turned on, so make sure you have already utilized a few of the above techniques to help get your partner warmed up and ready to go. Rub, tap, and circle your finger over that little patch of flesh. This is a situation where you can use some pressure in order for her to really feel the stimulation. Some women also really enjoy a combination of clitoral stimulation and G spot stimulation at the same time.
6. Fingering her bum – The next and final level of fingering involves fingering her anus. A lot of women need to be turned on first in order to enjoy and relax into this kind of stimulation. Once she is ready, insert one lubed up finger into her anus. You don’t need to insert it very far because all of the nerve endings are at the opening. Just the tip is sufficient. Finger her in this way while you stimulate her clit for a powerful orgasm.
Happy fingering, fellas!
Gabrielle Moore
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