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A Back Door Invitation: A Hands-On Guide to Anal Play

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A Back Door Invitation: A Hands-On Guide to Anal Play

Have a heart that never hardens, and a temper that never tires, and a touch that never hurts.
– Charles DickensYou may have the impression that your wife isn’t the least bit interested in anal sex, convinced it will be uncomfortable, even painful. It doesn’t have to be so, if you smooth the way with your fingers. Or maybe she has expressed an interest in a little back door action but you’ve been shying away out of fear. Don’t back down now!

The Crapshoot

You’ll have to take some time to break down any mental blocks you may have already constructed around the idea of anal. Yes, you might just encounter something less than pleasant. What can I say? Good sex is messy! Be sure to come prepared with condoms or gloves to help keep your fingers clean and ready for more fun.

Pay attention to the kind of lube you bring along, since some aren’t condom compatible. You don’t want to be switching from anal to vaginal penetration without cleaning yourself up in between, but if you cover up your digits when you enter her rear, you can take off the glove and go for the gold. You can also bring handy accessories like baby wipes or alcohol gel to help make clean up quick, easy and painless.

Warming Up

The most important thing about anal play is to start slowly. Don’t look at your fingering as a way to get her ready for larger penetration. It may take several attempts before she gets comfortable with something the size of your penis, or she may never decide to be stretched to that size. Most important of all, no matter what – don’t push her.

Warm up moves are strictly exterior. Don’t try to enter her until she is good and ready! You’ll want to start by massaging her outer sphincter by simply rubbing and stroking between her cheeks to get her all warmed up. Use some lube to start out, and gently rub her sphincter with just a finger tip once she is nice and slick. This rhythmic motion will start the process of relaxing her muscles and opening her sphincter.

The First Gate
To make your first entrance, use a well lubricated index or middle finger to apply steady but gentle pressure to the outer sphincter of her anus. You can’t force your way in without hurting her, so don’t push. Find the resilient edge of resistance, the point where her flesh responds your your pressure by displacing, not stretching or tearing. Once you are inside this space, take a moment and rest for a while.

Door Number Two
When your wife has grown accustomed to the sensation of your finger inside of her, you can begin to explore further. You will find about an inch inside the entrance to the inner sphincter, which is controlled entirely by the unconscious body process. It, like the outer sphincter, will open with just the right amount of steady pressure. If you can’t open it up the first time, don’t fret. Move on to some other kind of play and come back another day!

On the Other Side

Once you are past the second anal sphincter, the space opens up a bit into the colon and you have some room to explore! From inside this cavity, it is actually possible to reach the G-Spot, so if you crook your finger toward the front of her body while penetrating her anally, you might get some interesting reactions! Paired with vaginal and/or clitoral stimulation, this move is a winner if you’re aiming for female ejaculation.

Taking It Home

Try the master’s magic move, the five-finger delight, to bring your anal play to a roaring climax.  Using two hands and a lot of co-ordination, place the index finger of your right hand in your anus and the thumb of the same hand in her vagina, pressing gently against the back wall as you try to bring the two fingers together in a “C” shape.

With the left hand, insert the index and middle fingers into your wife’s vagina and crook slightly to stimulate her G-Spot. Use a “come hither” motion not only to stimulate this spot, but to put pressure on her clit with your left thumb, also forming a “C” shape. You do not need to thrust in this position! Some easy beckoning should be more than enough to rock her socks right off.

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11 Comments

  1. Reg Clark

    August 12, 2011 at 2:27 am

    very interesting…I would only attempt this with the woman’s consent but it seems to be more acceptable today…if done properly, I can see that it might be quite acceptable …possibly even to the stage of a woman doing it to a man…

  2. Abid Hamood

    August 12, 2011 at 3:55 am

    In the east we fit our toilet with flrxible water hose which we use to clean our anal and to inject the rectum several tmes with water and some cream soap to clean the inside completly then one can enter the finger in clean enviornment and have clean sex.

  3. Jocebeho

    August 12, 2011 at 8:14 am

    Thank you for the article Gabriella. My wife and I have been practising anal sex for many years now and we both enjoy it tremendously. If you do it right, it is a great sensation for both partners.

  4. Calvin Fowler

    August 12, 2011 at 12:21 pm

    I find the Take it Home step almost impossible, at least I have not been able to perform it with a little practice. “…place the index finger of your right hand in your anus and the thumb of the same hand in her vagina,…”

    I could not get my anus and her vagina close enough together to us one hand. However I was able to implement something close to this step on her with one hand.

  5. CHARLIE

    August 12, 2011 at 12:23 pm

    be slow ,and do it right,,get her hot with four play,,then open them legs in a dog sex ack ,then put it in slow don,t try to push it fast at no time ,,she will push win she can take more,,it will be fun CHARLIE

  6. Phil

    August 12, 2011 at 2:21 pm

    Thanks for the great tips on getting started with Anal sex. I’ve noticed more and more woman are ready to try it. It’s a blast once you can get in to it.
    Thanks again

  7. senior

    August 12, 2011 at 3:04 pm

    every time i try, she resist saying that its too painful,

  8. Mario

    August 12, 2011 at 3:38 pm

    Good Morning Gabrielle. Thank you for this very interesting article. I confess that I have nerver tried this but I have the disire and I intend to do it at least once in my life. Your thechnic seems to be very nice and I understood that to get the gold with excellence to both it requires some time. The secret is to be patient and I will be and will try. From now I wish to you a very good time in the mountains. Forget the sex and the seuxual matters for a certain period of time, reenergize yourself and take the opportunity to enjoy and appreciate the Greater Mother, the Mother of the mothers, The very old Mother Nature. Best Regards.

  9. GeeMan Cumsee

    August 13, 2011 at 12:31 am

    GABBY,

    You reinforce what my wife really is. You must be her double. Everything you have been saying and recommending is what my wife loves and craves for. You are truly, a masterpiece and a well versed professional in the field of sexuality. No one can come close to being right on target with your educational material and describing and verbalizing the various feelings and thought into action and reality. Go for it Girl!! I truly recommend your articles to all would be lovers and lovers of all ages.

  10. Tusita

    August 13, 2011 at 4:03 am

    I like to live inside your sexy head one whole day & then later we can f… our brains out!! Oh my….. you’re such a sexy woman….. Then I will say … Blossoms may wither, Flowers may die, Others may forget you, BUT NEVER WILL I!!

  11. vamu

    August 13, 2011 at 10:49 am

    I am more than 60. I tried anal sex from the beginning of my married life. But no success. After reading your article I tried as you said. But I cannot manage the bad smell.Then my feelings went down. The way to avoid such bad smell is not given in your article. If you give some best method to avoid such smell the couples will enjoy more.

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