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Mild and Wild: Anal Any Way You Like It

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Mild and Wild: Anal Any Way You Like It

There are a lot of reasons that women like anal sex, but it can be easy with something so often seen as taboo to fixate on one particular fantasy, one fetish. Do you have an anal fetish? When you close your eyes and think about the kind of anal sex that you want, is the fantasy always the same? What does it look like?

Now consider this… what if your anal fantasy is getting in the way of making it happen? Could your fixation on getting it your way be preventing it from happening at all?

Your wife’s personal flavor, her desires and ambitions, her wants and needs, her fears and hesitations when it comes to anal will all be part of the way she feels when you come on to her. If she isn’t sure of your motives, or she isn’t into your specific flavor of anal, the fun and games could be over before it has even begun! Try to pinpoint her wants and feelings towards anal play before you go gung ho.

Sweet and Mild

For many women, the “first time” experience of anal sex is appealing because it is a way to experience that “new relationship energy” all over again. Whether it is entirely new for her, or just something you haven’t tried together yet, it gives the relationship a whole new barrier to breach, pun intended. You should treat this experience as if you are laying down with a virgin all over again. Go as superbly slow as possible. Woo her over the course of a few weeks or even months, if it suits you! The more time she has to become accustomed to the sensations of different kinds of anal penetration and become comfortable with stretching to accommodate you, the more likely she is to thoroughly enjoy a fully penetrating experience!

Wet and Wild

Some women get into anal sex specifically because it can be so sensually wet and messy, in a good way. She probably enjoys lube a whole lot and will get right into extended foreplay… but don’t back off too quickly either. She may want to get right down to the “dirty” stuff when she’s warmed up.

Beauty Beguiled

For some women, it is the experience of being an object of pleasure and delight, as well as a vision of beauty to be desired, which drives them to enjoy anal play. She may enjoy women-on-top anal positions, which can give you an incredible view and enough time to gather your thoughts and pull off some staggering word play. Do everything in your power to make her feel absolutely gorgeous, while she takes the physical lead and controls your pace and depth for a comfortable ride. Go!

Flower Child

Many women enjoy anal for its simple, sensual aspects. Erotic massage is the perfect lead in for this lovely lady, who may also enjoy having delicate fruits and chocolate licked and nibbled from her skin. Try to engage all of her senses. The overwhelming experience will not only help get her turned on, but can relax her muscles and initiate many different pleasure responses in her body that might not otherwise be active.

Talk it Out

These are of course only a few examples of the many different fantasies women might have about anal sex. If she isn’t quite sure what her fantasy might be, have her explore it. Perhaps the only images she has in her head about anal involve discomfort or pain. Perhaps she associates it with feeling ashamed, degraded or dirty. Don’t try to “convince” her that she wants to try something she doesn’t enjoy… but do explore the roots of her aversion.

As If

Ask her to simply try imagining anal sex as if she were enjoying it. It may not work at first. She may find it difficult, but with time many people can discover that their particular discomfort or reactive disgust stems from a specific emotional event or recurring experience from their past. For couples who have varied fetishes which they may not share, regular visualization can be a life saver for bringing kinky couples closer together! Working together to at least understand, if not adopt your lover’s sexual interests, can drastically increase not only your sexual activity, but your honesty and intimacy. You and your lover both deserve to have her deepest desires heard and understood.

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8 Comments

8 Comments

  1. celimpilo

    May 25, 2012 at 2:38 am

    how to go about doing anal sex? What r d things to b used to the first-time gfrend?

  2. aman

    May 25, 2012 at 5:50 am

    thanks,very good article.this is very helpful.

  3. Patrick

    May 25, 2012 at 7:05 am

    Hey Ms. Moore,
    You coue couldn’t have said it better!!!!
    Just would like to say that Anal is wonderful and can be enjoyed by both, only, if the guy could only realize.
    She will gain if there is no pain.
    Guy has to take it easy and be greasy.
    Try not to be on the fast track while in the ass crack.

  4. the haitian zoe

    May 25, 2012 at 8:47 am

    I’d like to try the anal sex with my wife but she find that evil, what should I do cause I can’t wait do this with her

  5. mic

    May 25, 2012 at 10:58 pm

    my wife thinks I will strech her out and she will not be able to control her bowls if we do anal sex she likes my finger in ther but says my dick is too big

  6. Lamont McLemore

    May 27, 2012 at 3:12 am

    This article makes it appear that there are no women who, with no input from men, who don’t already enjoy anal sex. One girlfriend told me that she had been wanting to do it as soon as she’d first heard about it from a friend. Another turned her butt to me and said, simply, “I want you to.”
    In my experience, more women like getting anal than like giving head. And a lot of women like giving head.
    Men just need to stop being so creepy about it.

  7. Aditi

    January 11, 2013 at 5:17 pm

    you forgot to mention that one can start with some licky in the front and in the back as an added attraction

  8. Billy

    June 12, 2014 at 6:07 pm

    My wife and I have done a little anal finger play. When I mean little, I used one finger, going slow, asking how it felt. I didn’t start going in-and-out with that finger though and I’m sorry I didn’t. I didn’t even move my finger around while in her.
    After, she said it didn’t hurt, but it didn’t turn her on or anything. I know now that should have done “more”.
    My experience before was with someone I was seeing years before meeting my wife. This someone was the one that asked me to do her anally; I never tried anything like that before her; and never since until me and my wife tried a little. That someone always initiated anal, not me. That was close to 27 years ago.
    To say the least, I was very, very nervous. I was very new at initiating anal and didn’t know what all to do. This was probably around 18 years ago.
    If I suggest a little play, she doesn’t want to. She works in the medical profession, at a doctors office.
    She has heard lots of things about anal sex and that women/men can have “incontinence” with bowel movements after having anal sex.
    I would guess that would depend on many factors.
    Can you fill me in on those facts / factors and about the myths regarding anal sex.
    I really would like to be able to open up her mind again to the possibility of anal play and maybe anal sex.
    Something that might be a factor is we are both 50 years of age. We probably first tried anal play in our late 20’s / early 30’s.

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