Give your monotonous sex life a boost by slipping into another character.
Itching to bring ‘sexy’ back into your sex life? While there are umpteen ways to do so, roleplay lets you act out your kinkiest fantasies, and thus, is a hot favorite. According to a survey, 54 per cent women expressed their interest in roleplay. The act enables you to be ‘someone else’ while having sex, and offers you the freedom of exploring your sexuality completely. Roleplay can enhance fun and playfulness between the sheets. It also breaks the monotony in the bedroom. Roleplaying can give your sex life the necessary boost, and you will look forward to trying various roles with your partner. I bring you a few ways in which you can spice things up.
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Figure fantasies
Before you dive into the world of role play, figure out exactly what you want and the boundaries you are comfortable with. Ask yourself what your goal is, and how far do you want to take it. Are you okay with only channeling your inner actor or do you want to go the whole nine yards with costumes, props, et al? Discover which ‘character’ you want to play. Certain characters add a whole new dimension to one’s personality. For example, if in reality you are the dominating one in the relationship, during role play your partner could control the act. This could lead to a change in the sexual dynamics between the two of you. If your partner can pull off a dominating role in bed, there is a possibility that she has that streak in reality as well. This gives the two a deeper understanding of each other. In this day and age, most couples deal with ample insecurities. Roleplaying can help drive them out.
Determine limits
Although you’re open to experimenting with different roles, it’s possible that certain situations are a strict no-no. If either partner feels uncomfortable in any scenario, no matter what it is, it means STOP. Have a detailed discussion with each other. It can go a long way in preventing complications. In case, either party is hesitant to discuss, it is advised that both go with the flow, and then decide where to draw the line. Limits can be specified at any moment since thought processes and consent can change during the course of the sexual encounter. When my husband and I first started roleplaying, I was apprehensive because I had heard from a friend how terribly wrong it had gone for her. She’d taken part in a ‘boss-and-secretary’ scenario with her boyfriend, and was stunned when he entered her from behind without consent. Later, he claimed that he got ‘mixed signals’ from her. Thus, I made sure that my husband and I took it slow, discussed what we wanted and what was off-limits, and, I must admit, we had a great time.
No judgment please!
It’s expected that your partner and you may have a few fantasies that are ‘unusual.’ For instance, you could get turned on by gender-bender roles or want to have wild sex dressed as your favorite cartoon characters; workplace subterfuge where you go down on each other at faux workplace situations, could also be part of your list. If you have good understanding with your partner, there is no reason why you should not give in to your kinks. Judgment has no role in the bedroom, so never shame your partner for his fantasies. I’ve always fantasized about having sex with a stranger. You know, getting down and dirty with a cute pizza delivery guy, who I surprise at the door in sexy lingerie. When I told my husband about what I had in mind, he readily agreed. It was one of the steamiest sessions ever!
Set the scene
Now that all of the above is in place, it is time to enact that fantasy. I always wondered how it would be to meet a stranger in a club and end up having wild sex with him. My husband suggested that we should play out the fantasy. We met at a local bar the next day, and ended up spending a passion-filled night later. If you have a specific idea, you could plan a date in advance, and get the costumes and props ready. After all, setting the mood is important, and you need to make sure that the role play is realistic. If you’re not able to get into character at home, head out and book a hotel room or another house for a night. Push the boundaries.
Hot kisses,
Gabrielle Moore
P.S. Before engaging in roleplay, you and your partner should both feel your relationship is loving, trusting, and safe. This will help the quality of your erotic exercise. The more you enjoy it now, the more you are both likely to engage in it in the future. And the same applies if you want to try giving your lady squirting orgasms. Check out my Squirting Orgasms Shortcuts to learn how to best approach this and enjoy it with your lady.
