Vow to make the new year your hottest yet with these steamy endeavors. Talk about starting your year off with a big bang!
Have. More. Sex
Because getting it on should happen as often as you damn well please! And research shows regular sex reduces stress by releasing endorphins and oxytocin – and (get this!) it help you sleep better, fight off colds, and can even make you healthier. So here’s how to put your more-action plan into, well, action.
Make every day a foreplay day
It’s no secret among sex experts that extended foreplay leads to satisfying sex and better orgasms – score! People usually think of foreplay as what you do during the quick buildup to the main event. But it pays to view foreplay as an ongoing seduction that begins immediately after your last orgasm and continues right up until you two are in bed again. So once you catch your breath, start revving your engines for your next time, whether it’s an hour, a few days or a week. Focus on the lusty looks you give each other in passing, the sexy texts you send, and the kissing and touching that will lead to your next session.
There are two types of desire: spontaneous and responsive. Spontaneous is that magical, must-have-you-now encounter that starts with a flirty glance in her direction and ends with simultaneous orgasms in an outdoor shower. But guess what? Studies indicate that only about 15 percent of women (compared with 75 percent of guys) experience desire this way. So, instead, focus on responsive desire, which you two can generate yourselves. Plan a night in, make fancy cocktails, and dance really close – and let it lead to bedroom high notes that last all, um, weekend.
Push your boundaries
Being adventurous in bed can make you two feel like primal pioneers conquering new territories (aka each other!). Research shows that frequent sexploration enhances your connection.
Dabble in domination
Finally, a from-behind position where your partner is in control. While you lie on your back, she should straddle you, facing your feet, and get on all fours. She should back it up until you’re inside her, then move at her desired pace. Her G-spot gets some serious stimulation – and you get to enjoy the view.
Get a little freaky
Blindfold her with something you already have in the house – a scarf, your tie, her cami – and trace your fingers all along her body until she’s all warmed up. Every minute that goes by will build her anticipation for when you finally remove it and let her see your hard rock erection.
Boost your bedroom bond
When it comes to upping your coital connection, there is one way you and your partner can go: trying a trickier than normal move. Here’s one that I like: When you’re in your usual GOT (that’s girl-on-top, not Game of Thrones) and you feel you are about to climax, guide yourself to the edge of the mattress. (extra points if you two can do this with you still inside her – it’s not easy.) Let your arms and head dangle off the side of the bed while she gets back to grinding. Not only will she feel like the queen of your personal Westeros, the extra rush of blood to your head will also give you a full-body experience. It’s a skill-requiring maneuver that will have you high-fiving at your naughty teamwork.
Master the art of dirty talk
Try these stress-free scripts that are steamy, not scary.
Text her an emoji brainteaser
Choose a sequence of emojis and then type, “Figure out the riddle… it’s what I want to do to you tonight.” Okay, so she might not fully understand everything, but her brain will be all can’t-wait-for-this.
Send her a hot voice memo
But be sure to cut it off just as you’re about to say the sexy stuff, like this: “I was in the shower and started thinking about that hot thing you did the other day, and I swear I got so…” The anticipation will drive her completely insane.
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