Being confident between the sheets can be exciting, terrifying, and intimidating all at once. Let me help you break out of your shell.
Having sex with someone—long term or otherwise— exposes you in an intimate and vulnerable way. It’s not only the closest you can physically be with a person, it also opens you up to what most people today refer to as ‘catching the feels’. However, there’s one underlying factor—whether juggling the ‘what-ifs’ or ‘maybes’, most men grapple with confidence and self-esteem issues. But does taking charge of your sexual desires boil down to just your physical appearance? Let’s break it down.
Body image
Getting naked in front of your partner, whether it’s the first time or not, is about state of mind. A large number of men struggle with penis size issues. There’s also a section that is under the impression that communicating their sexual wants might have them viewed in a negative light. This, in turn, leads to ineffective communication (or a lack, thereof), resulting in an unsatisfactory experience in bed. Moreover, social media, films, the internet, and pornography, have set unrealistic standards of fitness, and sexual prowess. Thus, it is hardly a surprise that men constantly find themselves wondering if they are good enough in bed. The key here is to relax, and shut out the noise.
In fact, I believe that being able to relax during sex is a skill that many men are unable to master. Not only do most men not even know that it’s a skill, it also takes practice in order to know how to ‘quiet the noise’ so they can stay present, and enjoy the pleasure of the moment. Doing so is the first step to gaining that confidence you need. And if you have the confidence, no woman can ever resist you. And since we’re on this topic, for more information on how to become irresistible to women, check out this program by my friend Sebastian Harris, called Rise of the Phoenix. His method is top notch and will definitely help you. NOTE: This program was NOT created by me.
Accept yourself
Fortunately, for some men, perfect erections propagated by pornography have impacted their self-worth. Sure, pornography is a necessary evil. What is not, however, is letting those perfect erections and unrealistic sex scenes determine what you should and should not do. I’ve realized that not every sex act has to be perfect, and your penis doesn’t have to look or move a certain way because that’s what you say in a porn flick. Accept yourself the way you are.
The ‘I’ in confidence
Accepting yourself is a great first step on the road to confidence. But that begs the next question: where does the road lead? The answer is pretty straightforward—it leads to you! First, having a positive and confident state of mind leads you to being open to constructive criticism—giving and receiving. When it comes to sex, you can’t go wrong with open communication. When you understand your sexual needs, and have the confidence to voice them, you automatically control the narrative and the outcome—in this case, your pleasure and that of your partner. While there is still less pressure on men when it comes to pleasure and the big O, it’s also important for you to understand your partner’s body, find out what works, and be bold enough to communicate it.
Make the first move
Being able to ask for what you want in bed also means being able to initiate sex with your partner at all times, without the fear of being rejected. Besides, some dirty talk and healthy flirting throughout the day, makes for an intense romp in the sack when you get home. Any woman loves it when her man comes on to her. This shows her you are confident, expressive, and know what you want. Taking control is one of the sexiest things about a man. Coming out of your shell is an exercise in trust and bonding that can be good for your relationship. Having more transparency in your sexual relationship and taking risks will keep your relationship healthy, strong, and exciting. Whether you’re in a committed relationship or indulging in a casual fling, by being confident and open about your desires, you’re taking control of your sex life. But no matter what you choose to do, be sure of yourself because there’s plenty of fun to be had.
Hot embraces,
Gabrielle Moore
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