The hottest couples don’t have just great sex – they have wild, can’t walk the next day sex. A truly amazing sexual connection encompasses lots of different sensations – maybe even ones you wouldn’t expect. After all, your relationship isn’t one-note, so why would your sex life be? The more dimensions there are in a relationship in general, the more you will see those dimensions reflected in your sex life. See which kinds of sex you and your other half have hit so far. As for the ones you haven’t, well… you know what to do.
Pushing your boundaries sex
There’s nothing like the moment when you’re lying naked with your partner, panting and puffing, thinking, Wow, we’ve never done that before. People in long-term relationships sometimes crave excitement and stimulation, but don’t know how to get it with their partner. You can get that in your current relationship by pushing your regular comfort zone. If you’re used to missionary, that may mean trying a new position or a new room in the house; if you’re used to stimulation by body parts alone, it may be a sex toy thrown in the mix. And if you feel a little anxious about experimenting, all the better: the anxiety you feel about trying something new mimics what happens when you’re with someone new. So if you can create that feeling within the confines of a trusting relationship, you will keep reenergizing what you have. And there’s another important benefit: pushing your boundaries helps build trust between you. When you communicate a desire to your partner – and, ultimately, try it – you’re taking a risk together. Taking that risk is a bonding activity in itself.
Ah, yes, the turn-on effect of the unknown. And thank goodness for it, because vacation sex is a vital part of a good sex life. On vacation, you’re at your most carefree, which means you can try new things you won’t have to be accountable for at home. In other words, you can have sex on the beach or in a car, or flirt madly in a restaurant – all of which you might not do at home, for fear someone you know would see you or find out. Taking risks like this adds to the excitement. And ideally, you can bring that burst of excitement back home with you. The point is, if like in the bedroom is feeling blah, it’s often your surroundings that are getting stale, not your partner. So if you haven’t had vacation sex lately, do it. You don’t even need a plane ticket to get started. Head to a hotel downtown and call it a vacation. You can look forward to it and build it up beforehand for even better sex.
Crazy hang from the chandelier sex
You know what I’m talking about: wild, sweaty, so good it makes you dizzy sex. No matter how long you’ve been together, you need to have earthshaking sex like this once in a while. For long term couples, having an extra-hot sexual experience is like a flashback. It can stimulate those early feelings you had toward your partner in the beginning, and it reminds you what you’re capable of as a couple. People think the steamy stuff only happens when you’re young, but passionate hot sex can be experienced all the time. This kind of sex is also important on a deeper level. It requires a lot of intimacy to let your partner see you in the throes of sexual abandon. When you display that side of yourself, you have to deal with questions like, What if my face gets purple or my eyes go back in my head? To express a higher level of sensuality like this is another way of being intimate. And let’s not forget how much a toe-curling orgasm does to keep your eyes bright and your soul smiling.
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