“Once, power was considered a masculine attribute. In fact, power has no sex.” – Katharine Graham
As a woman gets older, her desires change in a few very specific and kinda kinky ways. When we’re younger, we’re pretty much happy as long as we’re having sex – a guy naked and willing is a guy naked and willing, after all. What more can a girl ask? As it turns out, as we exit our twenties and march into our thirties and forties, they kind of booty we’re after suffers some pretty dramatic and drastic changes. But don’t fret, they’re for the better. Younger women are usually just excited to be having sex. Once we enter our thirties, the novelty has worn off and we’re looking for a deeper connection and for ways to successfully fight sexual boredom. The great news for you? Women get more experimental with age… and a lot more generous.
There’s a move they are more willing to do
Most women in their twenties say that there’s nothing like a good, sweet and hard session of cunnilingus to put them in the mood for sex. But the hotties in the 35-40 age range? Most of them said going down on you is the best way to get them hot and bothered. Mature women understand that pleasure is better when you’re both experiencing it and they realize that they are not going to have an orgasm simply from being penetrated, so they do whatever it takes to make sure that they are well lubricated and you are especially hard. However, this doesn’t mean that you should stop going down on her, on the contrary. Returning the favor is especially important. And make sure your technique is spot on. She won’t be accepting any “average” downtown session and she’ll get bored more easily if there’s no pleasure in it. The good news is that she’ll be more than eager to give you instructions on how to do it better, faster, more awesome. You just need to know how to listen and don’t get easily offended by her straightforward methods.
There’s a new place they want to be touched
While only about 23 percent of women under thirty are open to the idea of your knocking at their back door, almost half the women in their thirties and forties said it’s an idea that they can, uh, get behind. Older women are more comfortable with their bodies and want to explore different potentially arousing areas. Slowly massage her anus while making sure you’re using more than enough lubricant on your fingers. If she doesn’t object, work your way back and make the most of one of the hottest sexual experience out there: anal sex! However, this doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t have a discussion before heading back. She is indeed willing to try it but that doesn’t mean she doesn’t know the risks. As a matter in fact, she knows them fairly well now and she isn’t willing to try anything that will make her feel uncomfortable or that will hurt. So next time you’re sipping coffee and talking about yourselves and your relationship, bring the issue up and see how she reacts to it. If she smiles sheepishly and said she’s willing to give it a fair shot, make sure you prepare and make sure the experience will be amazing for the both of you. You want to do it a second time, don’t you?
There’s something they now want to share
Eighty-one percent of 30somethings said it turns them on to watch porn with their partners – a big step up from 61 percent of 20somethings. Experts say that’s probably because younger women are more likely to worry that you’ll judge them if they suggest watching porn together. When a woman reaches her thirties, she’s confident enough in her desires to share them with you, often as a way to keep things hot in a long-term, committed relationship. But more than the excitement and the arousal potential of watching people get down to it on the screen, she’s now looking for new insights and more creative ways to better the sexual experience between the two of you. So make sure you keep in mind some of the more daring moves you see there and try them with her the next time you get between the sheets. Her moans will be a sign of not-so-silent approval.
Have a quiet week,
Gabrielle Moore
P.S. Also, don’t be afraid to ask her what specific moves and touches she most likes. She’ll be more open than ever with you. For more steamy secrets of the female orgasm, check out my video program on the subject – Her Secret Hot Spots.
