Do all your sexual encounters end with an explosive orgasm for the both of you or does your partner rarely enjoy a “fireworks” finale?
Statistics say that only 30% of women “benefit” from a guaranteed orgasm at the end of sexual intercourse. The remaining 70% sigh enviously and though they enjoy the emotion-rich carnal experiences they share with their partners, they remain lacking in the orgasm department.
Learning how to pleasure a woman can help ensure that your partner receives the satisfaction she craves from sexual encounters. The good news is that while women respond differently to various types of stimulation, there’s no shortage of erogenous zones to focus on or techniques to try. This means that with an adventurous and creative approach and a willingness to listen and learn, you’ll have no trouble learning how to make a girl cum fast.
Read on and learn how to crown every love party with benevolent orgasms for your lady as well.
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Ways to Pleasure a Woman
Whether you’re playing the field with several different partners or you’re researching “how to make my wife cum,” there are many ways to reach your goal. But it’s important to remember that each woman is unique, and what turns one woman on won’t work for all women.
Here are several methods of stimulation that may tickle her fancy.
Manual
Chances are that in your younger years, you’ve tried to make a woman cum with nothing but your fingers, and perhaps you both ended up disappointed. However, with the right fingering technique, you can use just your hands to bring her to climax. Take your time, build up the pleasure, and tease her till she’s begging for more. The most helpful tip I can give on how to make a woman cum with only your hands is to read the signs. If she’s moaning in pleasure in response to your movements, you’re getting it right.
Oral
The vast majority of men enjoy oral sex, so why wouldn’t women? When it comes to how to make a woman orgasm, oral stimulation is one of the best ways to do it. However, it’s important to note that some women might feel self-conscious about the incredibly personal and intimate nature of oral sex. Be sure to talk to your partner about whether she feels comfortable about you going down on her.
Clitoral
This is the #1 tip on this list, as the vast majority of women don’t have an orgasm without clitoral stimulation. So when learning how to pleasure a woman, spend plenty of time exploring how to make every tickle, caress, kiss, lick, and suck count. While clitoral stimulation with your fingers is all well and good, I highly recommend using your tongue too. There are lots of cunninglingus tips out there to help you become a pro. Just remember, it’s not a button on an Xbox controller — mashing it mindlessly can be uncomfortable, to say the least.
Breast Massage
When learning how to pleasure a woman, you don’t want to neglect any erogenous zones. It’s not uncommon to try a quick breast squeeze or light licking and nipping at the start of foreplay, but if you ignore her breasts for the remainder of your sexcapade, you’re missing a real opportunity. Breast play can enhance her pleasure throughout and make her orgasm unforgettable. In fact, with the right technique, you may even achieve the elusive boobgasm!
Sexual Penetration
So this one is obvious, but because it’s so much fun I couldn’t leave it off the list. However, it’s important to note that most women don’t have an orgasm from sexual penetration alone. Making her cum during sex should include both penetration and clitoral or G spot stimulation. But it’s not just about the actual physical contact, it’s also very much about the position you choose. Try a variety of positions to keep things interesting or check out my blog on the best positions to make a woman cum. Opt for a little naughty doggy style, passionate missionary, or experiment with some of the more adventurous positions that may or may not end up with one of you hanging upside down!
G-Spot Stimulation
When it comes to how to make a woman climax, few techniques are trickier to master than the G-spot orgasm. It can be difficult to find but to give you a good starting point, you can usually find the G spot about 3–5 inches inside the anterior vaginal wall. When this spot becomes engorged, it can cause intense pleasure for some women. In others, it can result in uncomfortable pressure. If she hasn’t tried it yet, it’s definitely worth exploring as it can exponentially enhance an orgasm — especially when paired with clitoral stimulation.
How to Pleasure a Woman: Tips for Success
FOREPLAY – INDISPENSABLE JEWEL
The more you know your partners body and its reactions to orgasm, the easier it will be to know exactly where to … insist. Once you get in bed with your partner, do not rush to get into the action too quickly and let her body “dictate” the rhythm.
Since for so many women foreplay is decisive in getting an orgasm, why are you deliberately choosing to ignore a more-than-pleasant stage of sex? Foreplay is important to the extent that the woman manages to emotionally load certain stimuli. Sexual excitement can be determined by different stimuli that have sexual significance for each individual woman, depending on experience and circumstances. Any stimulation becomes effective only if it is associated with a certain emotional load. In women, perception refers primarily to the affective component of the stimulus and then to the quality of the vaginal response.
The difference between women who climax and those who do not have orgasms is given by the ability of the first ones to perceive the genital and extra-genital changes produced by sexual arousal faster and more efficiently.
THE MOST PRIZED EROGENOUS ZONE
Beware – erogenous zones differ from person to person, but through “in-depth study” and work … you can manually spot your partners!
Practice deciphering her body clues and make sure you’re leaving your inhibitions aside. Pay attention to any gesture and touch and how her body responds to each and one of them – no area of the body should be “wasted” or overlook, so take your sweet time.
In addition, the brain is the one that gives sexual significance to a particular touch, not only the touch in itself, but also who you are doing it with, when and for what purpose. So no cutting corners! Stimulate the neck, the inner part of her thighs, the lumbar area and, why not, the lobes of the ears.
IMAGINATION – PLEASURE ADJUSTMENT ACCOMPLICE
All sexual positions that allow penis contact with the anterior vaginal wall could favor stimulation of the G point. Those who “promise” almost guaranteed orgasms are girl on top or doggy style, to which you can obviously add different variations. But imagination is one of the most powerful sexual tools one possesses. The brain has the ability to create sexual arousal without any external excitement. Sexual fantasies are really exciting and absolutely necessary.
So, put your mind to work and create intimate scenarios with you and your lover as protagonists. And if in fantasy everything is allowed, why not follow this thread in real life as well? There is a correlation between the richness of sexual fantasy content and the level of sexual activity, but also between personality and sexual fantasies.
TRICKS THAT SET HER ON FIRE
Is your partner more on the prudish side? Surprise her with new sexual positions or “invite” small “actors” to spice up the atmosphere of those moments. What exactly are we talking about? Sex toys are no longer a taboo subject or shameful subjects.
First, have your partner move into reverse cowgirl position. Rotating 180 degrees gives you the sexiest view and the back wall of her vagina will be stimulated to the maximum. At the same time, she can … gently caress her clitoris with a vibrator to double the pleasure. Or why not choose a special dildo for anal stimulation, which you can use on her to take her to heaven in terms of sexual pleasure? The world is your oyster!
There’s a lot you can do with your hands, mouth, and penis to pleasure a woman, but that doesn’t mean you don’t have other tools at your disposal. Sex toys — including dildos, vibrators, nipple clamps, clit stimulators, blindfolds, and handcuffs — can be gateways to fun and exciting sex play. Who knows, you may both find a brand new fantasy!
Set the Mood
If you want to know how to arouse a woman, start by creating conditions conducive to safety, comfort, and pleasure. You don’t necessarily need candles and a bottle of bubbly, but soft lighting, sexy music, and a comfortable area like a bed or couch by the fireplace certainly can’t hurt. Even if you decide to take risks with where you choose to have sex, make sure the location feels safe for her.
Pay Attention to Her Needs
Not every woman is ready to relax into your touch the minute her clothes are on the floor. Discovering how to pleasure a woman starts with understanding what she needs to feel comfortable and intimate, whether it’s spending time together beforehand, getting a sexy massage, or spending some time doing some old-school making out and heavy petting. On the other hand, if she’s ready to jump your bones immediately, by all means lean into that too!
Take Your Time
Some women are quick to reach the finish line, but it’s usually better to treat pleasuring a woman as a marathon, not a sprint. The best approach for how to make her orgasm is to go slow and wait for her to cue you to pick up the pace. So pay close attention to her words, movements, and sounds — these are clear indicators of what she wants you to do next.
Keep an Open Dialogue
You might think it would kill the mood to ask her what she wants, how she feels, or if she enjoys something, but some women may be nervous or embarrassed to voice their intimate desires — especially in the middle of the act. As such, it’s always smart to have a conversation before engaging in sexual activities to make sure both parties are feeling comfortable and safe.
If you want to know how to make a girl finish, the best way is to ask her — and keep asking! After all, she might even discover new things she enjoys as you explore her body. Soon, you may feel confident enough in how to make her cum that you can freestyle, but asking for her input and using sexy pillow talk to tell her what you’re going to do is a great way to make her feel safe and comfortable sharing her deepest desires.
Hot kisses,
Gabrielle Moore
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