Any man who has studied up on pleasing a woman knows that everything leading up to sex is just as important… scratch that… MORE important than the main event. What you do and how she gets turned on will directly affect how much she enjoys sex and how powerful her orgasm is. There are tons of ways to get her turned on and worked up for sex, but one of my all time favorites is the erotic massage. Massage is something that feels amazing, if done right. It’s fantastic foreplay for women because it’s slow and sensual. You can’t rush through a massage, you have to take your time. This allows her to get extremely turned on until she is practically begging you to flip her over (or not 😉 ) and take it to the next level.
Erotic massage is not as simple as it sounds. Actually, regular massage isn’t always as simple as you think if you want to make it really amazing, but follow these instructions and your partner will be begging you to do this all the time.
- Your hands should be soft and your nails should be trimmed and filed (to make sure there are no rough edges). Moisturize your hands beforehand. If you feel rough, scratchy calluses on your inner arm when you run your hand over it, she will also feel that on the soft parts of her body.
- Pick a great massage oil. You have a few options here, but whatever you end up choosing needs to be amazing. Having a good massage oil is like have good lube: super important. One option is to use a water-based massage oil (without Nonoxynol-9 added). This lubricates and slides over the body well. You can also opt for an edible oil so that you can feel free to massage her with your mouth and tongue without switch oils, but make sure that your edible option is just as slick and smooth and doesn’t get tacky and sticky as you massage. When in a pinch you can also use lotion, but you will have to reapply a lot more with lotion than with a massage oil. Keeping her well oiled up so that your hands slide easily over her body is absolutely KEY to success.
- Heat your chosen massage oil by letting it sit in a bowl of warm water next to the bed. You don’t want to surprise her or make her tense up by squirting a bunch of cool oil onto her body. Every part of this massage needs to be well thought out.
- Set the mood. Dim the lights, or better yet, turn them off completely and light enough candles so that you can see each other. If possible, set the temperature in the room a little warmer than usual so that she won’t be cold when she is lying there naked at first. She’ll be heating up in no time, anyway! Burn some incense, a scented candle, or some scented oil. Sense of smell is just as important in this process. Make sure you pick a scent that she loves. Try lavender, which is known to be relaxing and sensual. Put on some light and quiet music in the background.
- Think of everything. Put something to drink by the bedside table. Make sure the sheets are soft and clean. Turn your cell phones off and take the home phone off the hook. You don’t want anything to distract her for the next hour. Make sure the bedroom is clean and uncluttered. Have everything you need on the bedside table within arms reach.
I hate to leave you hanging here, but there just isn’t enough time to get into all that goes into an amazing erotic massage, so you will have to stay tuned! Believe me, good preparation for your erotic massage is very important. Just like amazing foreplay leads to great sex, amazing prep leads to an amazing erotic massage, leads to mind-blowing sex! In the upcoming post I’ll tell you all about the nitty gritty details of where and how to touch her.
P.S. Keep an eye out for the second part of this article coming very soon!