There are times when we just can’t be with our partners as much as we’d like. This might be the case if you’re in a long distance relationship, travel a lot for work, or just have a generally busy schedule. I’d be lying to you if I said your relationship won’t suffer from too much time away from each other, but most of the time there is nothing you can do about the distance. If that’s your case then you will need to work extra hard to make the most of the time your are away from each other. This doesn’t just have to be lost time. If you do things right then that time away from one another won’t hurt you, it can actually make the relationship stronger and spicier! Here’s what you have to do…
1. Master the art of video/phone sex – You’re going to have to get creative here. If you can’t physically touch her, you need a way to stay on her mind. A sexy video chat or phone conversation can be just the thing that gets her blushing and thinking about you all the next day until she’s back in your bed again. Don’t forget to set the mood, just like you would in your own home. You wouldn’t expect her to be turned on by you while you’re in a messy room, unshowered and wearing a dirty old t-shirt, would you? Put a little effort into your appearance and your surroundings so her first thought when she sees you is how much she wishes she was curled up next to you.
*Remember to look right into the camera sometimes. Looking at the camera will be “looking into her eyes” or as close as you can get to it in your situation! This will increase the intensity of the moment.
* As eager as you might be to get right into dirty talk, start with regular chat about what’s going on with each of you. Taking care of all parts of the relationship are important when one of you is away and connecting on a personal level is especially important to women.
2. Send her a sexy gift – Forget the flowers this time. Send her some sexy lingerie or a bra and panty set that you really love. Ask her to wear it for you the next day. If she’s up for it she can even send you a special pic modeling your gift, or you can just wait for your video chat that night. You’ll both get excited knowing that she’s wearing what you bought for her.
3. Master the art of sexting – A suggestive text can go a long way to get your partner thinking about you. Sexting could be anything from full on, hardcore dirty talk, to sending naked pictures, to more softcore, suggestive texts. It doesn’t have to include sending naked pictures of yourself if you don’t want it to. If you do, make sure you get the OK from your partner first. You don’t want to catch her off guard with a naughty pic. That might end up being more of a turn off than anything else. It’s always a good idea to warm up even if you want things to get really hot and heavy. Sending something as simple as, “I wish you were sharing this big, empty bed with me right now” is not only a sweet thing to say but it gets her imagining herself there with you and what you two would be doing.
4. Control her pleasure virtually – Technology is an amazing thing. Did you know there are all kinds of sex toys that can be controlled virtually? There are toys that you can control with your phone. This can bring your video sex chat to a whole new level. It will really feel more like you’re there with her. There is even a pair of vibrating panties that you can control with your phone. If she’s game she can put them on and you can give her a buzz anytime throughout the day that you’re thinking of her. How exciting is it that you could give her an orgasm from miles away?
Taking care of your sexually intimate relationship while you’re away from each other not only builds intimacy, but it also can make things even hotter when you finally get to see each other. But don’t forget to also pay attention to the emotionally intimate part of your relationship when you’re away. It’s just as important, so be sure to send romantic and thoughtful texts, emails, calls and gifts just as often.