If you are looking for shortcuts to impress a girl, you are wasting your time. She may be attracted to you, but she it unlikely to fall at your feet without some effort on your part. However, first impressions do count, and if you make a poor first impression, you will have to work all the harder to change it.
Making a good first impression is incredibly important because you only get one shot at it. I know this sounds harsh, but as humans – and particularly women – we are conditioned to judge people within the first second of meeting them—and our opinion often doesn’t change. This is called thin-slicing.
Thin-slicing is when she takes a mental snapshot of you and guesses your confidence and likability in less than a second. Researchers think this is a survival mechanism that women particularly have developed to decide very quickly if someone is friend or foe. Do you want to make an impression that women won’t be soon to forget?
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Be Aware of Your Body Language
Be self-aware and know what your body language is saying about you. It is possible for a girl to tell a lot about you from your body language, before you approach or speak to her. Watching other people and thinking about what their body language is saying to you can help you to become more aware of how you come across yourself.
Keep Some Secrets of Your Personality and Reveal Slowly
Getting to know each other takes time and we all tend to be on our best behavior until we know the person better. That is OK, unless you are hiding a deep dark secret side to your personality. It is easy to make the excuse that you didn’t want to frighten her off on the first date, but she may feel more aggrieved if she finds out you have not been truthful with her from the start.
Take Control of Your Date
You have asked the girl out so you can expect to have some control over what you do and where you go. The girl may well be happy to sit back and let you take charge, but you take that for granted at your peril. You need to remember that you are both equal and you both have a right to your own opinions. On the first date especially, you are getting to know each other, so there should not really be any reason for debates, heated or otherwise. Steer the conversation to keep it away from what could be a controversial subject until you know a bit more about each other.
Be Funny and Have Fun
If you have taken time to get to know each other as friends before going on a date, you will probably find it is a lot easier to be natural in each other’s company and you can relax and just have fun. If it is a blind date, or you haven’t had the chance to get to know each other, you will likely be more uptight. It is not the best time to try out a new restaurant or venue you haven’t been to before. The more familiar you both are with the surroundings, the easier it will be to concentrate on each other and relax.
Making a great first impression requires some sensitivity and skill that will come with practice. You are like to have some good, and some bad experiences. You need to learn from the good ones, and put the bad ones behind you so you can move on. You should never let a bad experience dent your confidence because that is the key to getting back on the saddle for your next date.
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