“Love ain’t nothing but sex misspelled”- Harlan Ellison
You know how the say that knowledge is power? It’s the same with sex. As long as you’ve done your homework correctly, you have nothing to fear about. Knowing how the female body functions (especially the intimate areas), you’ll know exactly which trick to pull out of your sleeve and when.
If you think that learning anatomy details is redundant, you’d better think again. Learning about the Mount of Venus, for example, which is just as sensitive and worth stimulating as the clitoris, will give you more to work on the next time you’re treating your girlfriend with her most treasured gift: oral sex.
The vulva. The vulva refers to all the external genitalia: Mons Venus, small and large lips, and clitoris. Anatomically, it also includes the vestibule, the urethra, the vaginal opening, the hymen and Bartholin’s glands, but you won’t be dealing with these, at least not when it comes to cunnilingus, so there’s no need to go into further detail about them.
The Mount of Venus. This region, named after Venus, the Goddess of love, is the pad of fatty tissue and thick skin that covers the lowest area of a woman’s abdomen. The Mount of Venus lies just below the pubic bone and above the labia majora. It serves as a “cushion” to absorb the impact between man and woman during intercourse. Its many nerve endings make it very sensitive to touch. Stimulating this area can be for many women as enjoyable as stimulating the clitoris. On your way down to her vagina, stop on this particular region to trace thin lines with your fingers. Keep doing that even when you’re busy licking her labia.
The labia majora. These are the most external genitalia of women. They consist of two folds of skin, made of adipose tissue, and measuring 7-8 cm in length. Full of glands and nerve endings, the two lips come together, covering the labia minora and the clitoris. During sexual arousal, blood flow in the vessels causes them to swell and grow apart from each other, thus exposing the vaginal opening in order to facilitate penetration. This phenomenon is more marked among women who had a child. On the other hand, after menopause, the labia lose the bulk of adipose tissue that gave them shape, and they do not swell as much as before. When performing oral, it’s good to start with them. Don’t be afraid to kiss them and set them apart with your tongue, when you want to reach to the labia minora and the clitoris, which are more valuable in terms of how much pleasure they can cause.
The labia minora. Also called “the nymphs”, they surround the entrance (or vestibule) of the vagina. They are, in fact, a part of the vaginal opening; they close and protect it, just as much as they close and protect the clitoris. With no fat cells, they are thinner than the outer labia, but have many nerve endings that make them more sensitive to touch. Under the effect of excitement, the small blood vessels that crisscross the spongy tissue make them change color: they then pass from pale pink to bright red or amber (a clear sign of the odds of reaching orgasm). Simultaneously, they also become larger because of the influx of blood which makes them swell. After orgasm, both large and small lips quickly resume their normal size and shape. If you have problems figuring out if she did have an orgasm or not, now you know what clues to look for. When she pushes you away, claiming she peaked, look at her inner lips, if they aren’t brownish red, she was probably faking it.
The clitoris: a miniature penis? Located at the top of the vulva, this erectile organ has many nerve endings.
Like the penis, the clitoris has an inner and an outer part. It consists of a root (tiny button at the bottom), and a body- the shaft (usually covered by the labia minora), both made of erectile tissue, similar to the penis. His many nerve endings make it particularly sensitive. When he is sexually stimulated, he is erect, but still not as rigid as the penis. The root and the shaft become engorged with blood, increasing volume, and causing the clitoris to stand and become very sensitive to touch. The root may even double in diameter. But the size of the clitoris is not necessarily proportional to the degree of excitement. Be very gentle and always remember that when it comes to this particular area, less is the new more!
Have a gorgeous week,
Gabrielle Moore
P.S. If there’s anything else you’d like to know about the mechanics of her private parts, ask me in the comments section! For more tips and tricks on how to rock your partner’s world with oral, check out my program on the matter, Oral Rapture.