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How to Get Into Her Head

Remember when you and your partner first started dating, way back when? All you could do was think about each other and have sex! Is that still true today? If you’re one of the lucky guys that answers yes to this question, congratulations! The reality is, most of us, men and women alike, answer no. It’s not that we are all in bad or unhealthy relationships. A dying down of the flame between you and your spouse is completely normal, but if the flame has all but extinguished then you need to take action right away.

If you have been following my work for a while now, you might already know that the most important erogenous zone for a woman is her brain. Before touch or turning on any other part of her body, you need to first get her in the right mood. This doesn’t have to be impossible if you know what to do.

It all comes down to good and healthy communication between you and your partner. Women tend to be the ones who love talking things out, whereas men are usually the quieter gender, but that doesn’t have to be the case. The right kind of communication can bring you closer and get you having a lot more sex. Here’s the way to use communication to get back into her thoughts, her head… and her pants!´

* Compliment her – Many women worry a lot about how they look, both during sex and outside of the bedroom. These concerns can seriously and negatively affect her desire level. It makes sense if you think about it. If she doesn’t feel attractive, she doesn’t feel like having sex. Unfortunately, you can’t completely fix all of her negative body image issues for her, but you can make a difference. Just think, negative thoughts about herself are running through her head and you need to find a way to combat those thoughts. The best way for you to do that is to shower her with compliments!

Be genuine. Your compliments should be honest and from the heart. She will be able to spot insincerity. It’s great to tell her how beautiful and sexy you think she is. Make sure you do so, both in the bedroom and out. However, you should also compliment her about other things. For example, when she’s just done something great at work, tell her how smart she is and how much she impresses you. Show her how wonderful you think she is and she’ll start feeling wonderful. You both will start feeling closer to each  other and the intimacy in the relationship will grow. When women feel close and intimate with their partners their desire level grows.

* Let her know you think about her – When you were first together you probably called her all the time, sent text messages and emails (if those were around back then!), and did all kinds of thoughtful things for her. Over the years those things change. It’s not always a bad thing, if continued to think about each other and talk like we do in the beginning of a relationship, we would never get anything done! But it’s time to start doing some of those things again. Send her a sweet message now and then. Bring her a thought gift. Send her flowers. Remember that a thoughtful gesture doesn’t have to be grand or expensive. It can be as simple as bringing her a favorite coffee drink at work one afternoon or picking up her favorite dessert one evening.

* Pamper her – Be a gentleman. Take care of her. Give her a back rub after a long day. Listen to her rant about her boss. Take an interest in what interests her.

* Talk dirty – Then take the communication into the bedroom. When talking dirty make sure that you do what comes naturally. Talking dirty doesn’t always have to be just one way. It can be as vanilla and simple as, “you’re so sexy, you turn me on so much.” Or it can be dirtier, for example, “your pussy is so wet and delicious, I could eat you out all day.” Do what feels natural to you.

You can also give feedback and ask for feedback in a sexy way. Ask her if she likes what you’re doing or better yet, say “show me how you like it.” When giving her feedback always keep it very positive. Say, “it feels so good when you do…” instead of saying, “don’t do…”

Have fun communicating and seeing the sparks fly once again!

Gabrielle Moore

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  1. Jim

    October 10, 2015 at 8:52 am

    This article discribes our relationsip to a T. I have tried some of what you discussed and it doesn’t seem to work. Oral for example, use to do it practly daily, now she won’t allow me at all, and our sex is now down to once a week.
    I will try massage and see how she responds.
    Thank you for your tips and articles.

  2. Greg

    October 10, 2015 at 1:36 pm

    Great advice, as always. Although I’d put dirty talk higher up as it reminds her that she is still a sexual creature and always will be. Time and changes in lifestyle/ageing often persuade women in relationships that they now have to go full time into mother mode (even if they don’t have kids women often act subconsciously like their mother – who they’ve probably never seen act sexually in front of them).

  3. A

    October 11, 2015 at 1:09 am

    wow! Gabrielle I`m a76 year old male what a big difference your tips are making to OUR sex life (wife 72)
    brought a whole new meaning not only to our bedroom but the whole of our life ..thanks!!!
    we glow and burn or each other!

  4. isaw

    October 11, 2015 at 1:19 pm

    thanks Gabri

  5. AL

    October 13, 2015 at 11:54 am

    Wow!I`m 76 years too my partner 70, I learned sexual techniques way back when generally by trial and error usually fumbling about in the dark.not very fulfilling for either of us BUT now with Gabbys techniques a little practice and innovation our whole lifestyle in and out of the bedroom is so warm we burn and simmer for each other Its a wonderful experience!KEEP ON TRUCKIN GABRIELLE

  6. yoni

    October 16, 2015 at 8:26 pm

    This little tips just add the experience up! thanks for this nice things!

  7. Alex

    May 15, 2016 at 7:05 pm

    These articles are excellent and very helpful. However I wonder if women try as hard to find out how to please us men. I would love being asked how I wanted it and then be given it exactly that way. Women seem to be quite selfish lovers.


    July 12, 2016 at 7:32 pm

    You are truly right, Gabri!, unless there is a real love,everything would go away forever.But for me, I am so lucky that I’m still occupying her (Brain) so that nothing wrong would be expected, despite several ups and downs which we could easyly overcom.
    I think marrage only woukd ensure stability of the relationship, especially when children are around their parent.

  9. I

    August 29, 2016 at 6:17 pm

    So depressing, when your own spouse is lazy, stubborn and uninterested in following any of these tips and won’t read about them or use even IF read, despite his wife going above and beyond to try to spice things up. Need articles on obstinate men!

  10. Adam James Hanna Settle

    August 30, 2016 at 3:18 pm

    Dear Gabrielle,
    While I am greatful for a lot of your work. I must say that this article and some past ones. While have some great info also has men giving up the necessary balance of power in the relationship.
    My wife is beautiful Russian woman with more femininity and family values then any western woman I have met. She views this article and I agree that as a feminizing message to men. The last thing the west needs is more Cucked men.
    To all the men out there. Women will always desire a strong, assertive man! It is ok to say “I love you but I need this or that to be happy in a relationship”.
    So please men detox all that estrogen we intake and balance your hormones with diet. Women are happiest and most content joining a man on his adventure through life not leading him! For the doubters just look up the percentage of women on anti-depressants and alcohol today or studies of women’s happiness for the last 50 years.
    “Be men!” Women will thank you!

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