We all constantly vow to work towards self-improvement or decide to resolve nagging issues in our relationships. But what we often miss out on is setting new physical intimacy goals that can be real relationship boosters. After all, as relationship counsellors frequently point out, sex is the glue that binds a couple together. So, while you aim to keep having sex, no matter how humongous your workload gets or how stressful your everyday responsibilities are, here’s a handy guide to making your sex life all the more satisfying. Of course, one size doesn’t fit all, so be creative when it comes to lovemaking. For, without creativity and consent, there may not be any pleasure!
Games people play
Creative, bold, and adventurous are the key words here. Experts strongly recommend role play and sexual games to spice things up. Here’s an example: write naughty instructions such as, ‘take your shirt off’ for your partner on small pieces of paper. Fill a bowl with these pieces of paper and take turns with your partner to pick one, and follow the instructions written on them! If you want to find more such ideas, help is at your fingertips. There are plenty of sex games apps on the internet. You can download the widely Dirty Games Truth or Dare app, available for free on the Android and iOS platforms. This cheeky app suggests several sex games to challenge your partner.
Have more quickies
Sometimes, quickies are far more enjoyable than marathon sex sessions. Let’s look at it this way—we do enjoy a seven-course meal occasionally, but fast food is what gives us the thrill of guilty pleasures. Quickies are all about such short bursts of intense pleasure.
Let’s face it—some of you guys love performing oral, while others take it as a task to be executed. According to experts, sex need not be completely penetration and orgasm driven. There are several ways to bond with your partner and shed inhibitions, and oral sex can be one of them.
And since we’re on the topic of oral sex, check out this hot new program, Sweet Oral Sex Positions, by my friend Susan Bratton. In addition to a special technique that takes oral to a whole new level, getting your woman super turned on, it contains four additional techniques for passionate, amazingly connected lovemaking. NOTE: This program was NOT created by me.
Take turns initiating sex
Your partner is not a passive receptacle of pleasure, so she shouldn’t be shy to initiate sex and express desire. What’s more, initiating sex will not only make her feel empowered, but also help you feel desired. Challenge your partner to break the stereotype that only men can be initiators of sexual intimacy. The good new? If your partner initiates foreplay or switches over to the on-top position, it can make you feel less pressured to perform. Both you and your partner should understand that sex is not a performance; it’s meant for mutual pleasure. So both be proactive as often as you can.
If you haven’t tried it yet, start watching porn together. Of course, you should be mindful of the kind of porn you watch. Experts say that watching hardcore porn isn’t healthy for a relationship, since it tends to objectify women and set unrealistic standards. Instead, watching soft porn can enhance your relationship. For instance, porn made by women for women in heterosexual relationships focusses on conversations and bonding, and not just on hardcore sex. This kind of porn can help a couple shed inhibitions and also facilitate an exchange of ideas.
The sex toy industry around the world is getting more innovative with each passing day. You can order the toys online these days. But, before doing that, do your research. Instead of going for fancy, heavy-duty gadgets, such as vibrating butt plugs, start with basic ones such as handcuffs, blindfolds, and vibrators. These are guaranteed to add some extra thrill to your romps. A note of caution—avoid pointed, sharp, or glass objects for penetrative pleasure. Also, make sure you cover dildos with condoms before use—this will ensure hygiene.
This can be kinkier than watching porn together! Of course, you need your partner’s consent to go ahead with this. Create an ambience, have your lady wear that sexy lingerie, play some sensual music, and set the camera rolling. But before you say, “action”, ensure that there is no breach of privacy, even unwittingly, by making sure you turn off the share mode on your device. Further, don’t make a video if you don’t have your partner’s consent or if you are not comfortable with it.
If you haven’t tried it yet, you must include it in your erotic to-do list. Shower sex is a widely admired option. Take a 2014 survey by Durex, covering about 1,000 respondents. Assessing an average American’s fantasy versus reality orgasm experience, the survey showed that about 54 per cent of the respondents said they were satisfied with sex in the shower. Needless to say, water can be a great stimulus. Of course, you need to be open to some trial-and-error episodes, in order to get the position right in the shower. For instance, you can sit down on the floor facing each other. While you lean against the wall, your partner can straddle you.
According to experts, sex detox is a relationship booster. It can deepen longing and desire, and reignite the old spark. In his seminal book Sex Detox, author Ian Kerner explains that the proposition is quite simple—with regard to love, sex, and dating, “we tend to get so ‘into’ or involved” with the person that the only thing that prevents things from getting boring is “to start afresh”. So, go ahead and give this a shot too!
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