– Bob MarleyWhen first approaching a woman’s most sensitive spots, there is really one universal factor that determines your range of motion to please her – lubrication. From bone dry to soaking wet, a woman’s wetness is your cue for the kind of move you make. If your wife is the type to lubricate easily and copiously, you may want to keep a towel handy to be able to try some of the tricks that work best on drier skin. If your lady doesn’t lubricate well on her own, invest in a bottle or three of quality, water-based natural lubricant so you can explore the realms of the super slick!Sunny SkiesWhether your wife is in the stage of her monthly cycle when desire and arousal are less forthcoming, or if she just has the type of libido that takes more warming up, there are a few great beginner moves that will not only get you used to touching her, but help build a foundation of desire and stimulation to arouse.
The first step in warming up her outside is a gentle pull on the outer lips. Grasp them between your thumb and forefinger, careful not to catch her fine inner lips, and stretch them first down and out toward her feet, then up and out slightly toward her breast. Follow up with a few soft tugs – start with the hair on her mons, if she isn’t too closely trimmed, running your fingers through and straightening the curly fibers between your knuckles. Finish up the warm up by pulling her outer labia back to expose her inner labia and clitoris, a great move to segue into oral sex and lubrication.
Chance of Showers
When you’re not sure what the weather is going to be like and you want to be prepared for just about anything, there is a whole range of moves you can use to stimulate her nether regions just right.
Start out with gentle moves that cup or gently massage the entire vulva. From this position you can hold her sex tight, rub it gently, or even vibrate her like a real-live sex toy by shaking your hand with a bit of a tremor as you hold her vulva in your palm. Rubbing her outer labia and gently seperating her inner labia will provide her with some new sensations before you take the dive and begin by stimulating her clit and U-Spot. Don’t get carried away or apply pressure or touch that is too direct, especially if she is not yet very wet. Tap lightly, or lick with the tip of your tongue to provide some sensation with over-stimulation.
Rainy Days
The reason that lube is so important to sex is because of these great moves – there are certain kinds of stimulation that just don’t feel good without wetness, so if your partner isn’t lubricating on her own, you should add a few drops of something slick and slippery before trying these out.
Use your fingers to slide around a bit on the slick surface of her vulva. Try rolling her outer lips between thumb and forefinger in a gentle massage before using the tips of your fingers to circle and stroke her clitoris and her U-Spot. Don’t penetrate her yet! I still have a whole collection of tips for extra-lubricated ladies who enjoy a lot of stimulation.
Flash Flood
When she is overflowing with her own juices, or you have a good supply of long-lasting lubrication, it’s time to try out a few of these extraordinary examples of techniques for taking the next step, bridging the gap between exterior and interior genital contact.
The first step now to discover her most sensitive spots is to ensure her clit is erect and engorged, so start with a sliding move that uses the pressure of your fingers to stimulate her in long, smooth strokes from your fingertip to the knuckle at your palm. When she is ready for a bit more stimulation, use your fingertip to make tiny circles in-place as your explore the are around the edge of her clitoris, finding the spots on her hot-button that are especially inflamed!
When you know just how much clitoral stimulation she enjoys, you can attempt the next big thing in manual stimulation for women – jilling off! Just like jacking off, “jilling” involves stroking the sensitive parts using the “foreskin” protection that covers it. Grasping the clit gently between your thumb and forefinger tips, or knuckles, you can make tiny stroking or turning motions that stimulate not just the visible head of the clit, but the deep root in her pelvis.
Try to bring her to orgasm without penetrating her at all, then get ready to move on and explore her deeper places.
Hot kisses,
Gabrielle Moore
P.S. For more information about using your fingers in hot new ways, check out my program on the matter – Flirting Fingers.
