“Afterward she lies nestled against me, her hair tickling my face. I stroke her lightly, memorizing her body. I want her to melt into me, like butter on toast. I want to absorb her and walk around for the rest of my days with her encased in my skin.”- Sara Gruen
Rest assured, robotically moving your hand up and down her body won’t get her ready for action. If you want to achieve sex god status, you have to truly master the way you touch her lady bits. According to the pros, the secret is knowing which areas of your sexual anatomy are similar to hers.
Biologically speaking, men and women start with the same parts in the womb- which means we’re built with many common tissues and numbers of nerve endings. So if you think of her erogenous zones like some of your own when you’re stimulating her, it’s easier to understand how she feels.
For each of her key down there hot spots, I pinpoint the male part you should link it to in your mind- because either they’re constructed similarly or they just happen to respond to touch in a similar way- and provide you with some awesome new moves to try.
1. Think of the outer curve of her breast… like your shaft
Consider how it feels when she gently caresses your shaft at the beginning of foreplay. She may not be making a beeline for the obvious pleasure gold mine that is rhythmic movements to your penis, but you’re still totally turned on, right? Same goes for her breasts: touch it lightly, avoiding the nipples, and you’ll build her anticipation, making her all revved up.
Next, step up the pressure. Like your shaft, there aren’t a ton of nerves in her breasts, so they can handle a firmer grip. A woman can also get frustrated when a man is too gentle with her. That said, you can definitely be firm- don’t be afraid to grab them in your palms and stroke them with passion.
2. Think of her nipples… like your testicles
You know when your testicles get bigger and darker when you’re turned on? So do a girl’s nipples. When a man is excited, his scrotal sac fills with blood and becomes more sensitive. Likewise, when a woman becomes aroused, her nipples enlarge because they are engorged with blood. Another way her nipples are like your boys? Most guys do not appreciate being manhandled down there. Just like you don’t want her to pinch your balls to the point of pain, she prefers softish touches on her nipples.
Try these:
• As you kiss her, cradle her nipples in your palm. No need to caress- your hand’s warmth is enough.
• Lightly massage her magic buttons using your thumb and forefinger.
• Rub the flat sides of your fingernails (not the edges!) against her nipples. They’re harder, smoother and cooler than your fingertips, so it feels different.
• When you are on top and feel like she’s on the verge of climaxing, reach out and gently pull her nipples. Stretching them like this exposes more nerve endings, making her orgasm more intense.
3. Think of her pubic mound… like the base of your penis
When you take a break from stroking her clitoris with your fingers and rub her pubic mound- the round, fleshy area just above her hot button- it’s a steamy treat. That’s mainly because blood rushes there when she’s turned on, but it’s also because it stimulates her clitoral hood- the fold of skin that surrounds and protects her clitoral glans. Since it’s less sensitive, it can handle both gentle squeezes that get her ready to go and the rougher sort once you’ve built the heat. Essentially, the pubic mound is a good place to add some variety to your repertoire. Try this trick: Make your fingertip into a firm point, and trail it around the mound. Since you usually focus on the top three quarters of her vaginal area, she’ll be surprised and aroused.
4. Think of her clitoris… like the head of your penis
Her clitoris is jam-packed with millions of nerve endings, as is the tip of your member. However, if the head of your penis can take a bit more pressure- the nerves are spread over a slightly larger area- her clitoris is more sensitive. This spot is filled with nerves, so it needs to be stimulated carefully. Tease the areas around it first, and then make your way to it, building up speed as you go. But finger with caution: if you spend too much time there or are too rough too soon, she may become overstimulated, and that can be really painful for her. To keep that from happening, switch up your tactics. Don’t stick with one for more than 10 seconds or so.
5. Think of her G-spot… like your perineum
All hail the sexy G-spot. It’s the small, spongy area located about 2 inches up the front wall of her vagina that gives her one of those super-deep, way intense orgasms. A guy’s perineum, the patch of skin between your anus and testicles, is a very similar producer of body rocking inner pleasure, since it has nerves that run straight to your prostate, which is known as the male G-spot. Treat her G-spot with these fingering moves:
• As you’re stroking her clitoris with one hand, reach down and insert one finger inside her vagina, massaging her G-spot with the pad of your thumb. Roll it from one side to the other, almost like you’re giving a fingerprint.
• Do the same trick as the one described above, but while giving her oral. It’s best to use this move if you’re ready for her to finish, since the combo of oral and G-spot contact is sure to speed things up.
Have a sexy week,
Gabrielle Moore
P.S. In order for your fingers to really work their magic, bring a friend: lube! It will feel just like oral sex, only better, cause you’re more spot-on with your fingers. For more information about using your fingers in hot new ways, check out my program on the matter – Flirting Fingers.
