In the Deep: A Husband’s Guide to Interior Genital Touch

When you touch a body, you touch the whole person, the intellect, the spirit, and the emotions.
–  Jane HarringtonA woman’s pleasure centers have long held a mystery that seems so much more of a hidden secret than those of a man’s sexual enjoyment. While it is fairly easy to see what parts you touch when you’re turning on and understand how your body is configured, many of a woman’s special spots are hidden away deep inside, where only finesse and perseverance will help to find the key.Do you find yourself wondering what mysteries lie beneath the calm surface of your wife’s skin? Do you want to know where that magical moisture begins, and discover spots inside her that will help take her over the edge with just about any kind of penetration?The Straight and Narrow

Whether you begin with one finger or two (which, of course, is really up to your wife and her comfort levels), most men tend to think of fingering as thrusting straight digits in-and-out of the vagina as if the hand is just another penis. No offense darling, but you don’t need another one. I’m sure your wife is happy enough with the penis you were born with, so put your hands to better use; you didn’t go through all the trouble of improving your hand fitness for them to play second string to an intercourse main event. Pull out of that rut and try something different!

Don’t penetrate her without lubrication unless she has explicitly asked you to do so. If she is having difficult getting wet enough, bring in the reinforcements. Don’t make a big deal of it – many women are self-conscious about relying on products to perform functions they think their body should be able to do on its own, and there is no such need to fret. Lube is great even for those of us who do lubricate well, because it allows us to experience a whole new set of sensations!

Start slow to begin with, not entering her with any force at all, but allowing her to use her PC muscles to “pull”  your fingers in. Once you have entered her, try putting a bit of pressure on the walls of the vagina by swirling your fingers around in a circular motion and stopping to make smaller circles on-the-spot all the way around. You are likely to find that some areas of her entrance are more sensitive than others, which will help you to focus your energy there during intercourse as well!

Around the Bend

The most effective hand movement for interior stimulation is the “come hither” motion, characterized by curling the fingers in toward the palm. This little crook in your (typically, index and middle) fingers can be used to find the G-Spot about 1-2 inches inside the vaginal canal, as well as the A-Spot a couple inches beyond that. Both are incredible stimulation points for encouraging ejaculatory orgasms and lubrication. Don’t press too hard, and don’t thrust at all unless she begins to thrust herself onto your hand.

A twisting motion of the wrist while stimulating the front wall will hit her G-Spot and/or A-Spot with the same crooked fingers gives her a chance to experience the side-to-side motion, something altogether different from the thrusting or beckoning movement that most women are used to with this kind of play. You can also use this same finger pose to stimulate the back wall of her vagina, with your palm facing down toward her spine. She may not be accustomed to this kind of direct touch here, so take it easy and follow her lead.

A Fork In the Road

If you want to be truly masterful at genital touching, you will learn to stimulate your wife’s inner chamber and outer erogenous zones at the same time. You can use two hands both directed at her sex, or one hand focusing both externally and internally, while the other hand reaches for her breast or stimulates yourself!

One-handed moves are not nearly as difficult as they might sound. With your index and middle fingers you can stimulate her G-Spot while using your lubricated thumb to stroke her clit or rub her urethral opening, getting her even closer to the infamous squirting orgasm. If you want to get extra fancy, you can even employ a little round-about action and use your pinkie finger in this configuration to penetrate her anally! If she isn’t into rear entry, simply stroke her perineum gently with the backs of your ring and pinkie fingers. If you can pull off these great combo moves, you’re sure to bring her all the way over the edge.