An erotic massage can be a perfect way to segway into an amazing night of sex with your partner. You might find that your partner doesn’t seem to be interested in sex these days, but most people are always up for a massage. Even though this will be an erotic massage, your partner doesn’t have to know that! Start off giving a regular massage, which can actually be very erotic on its own. Then, along the way, you can make the massage more erotic. But, let’s face it, not everyone is skilled when it comes to giving massages. For that reason, I’ve compiled this important list of DOs and DON’Ts when it comes to erotic massage:
DO Learn some skills. Some men might choose to take a massage class to really become an expert in using your hands to really make your partner feel great, but there are other options out there if taking a class is not for you. First, check out my past articles on erotic massage. You can also find some helpful videos by doing a search on YouTube.
DO Learn what she likes. Beyond just learning the basic skills you need to give an outstanding erotic massage, you also need to learn the personal preferences of your partner. Some people like a light touch, whereas others like more pressure. Find out what she likes by communicating with her as you give her a massage. Once you’ve got it down you can quiet down and just let her enjoy the sensations.
DON’T Go right for the erotic zones. A great erotic massage is all about the build up, so don’t jump right in by grabbing her boobs, butt or touching her clitoris! You need to start by massaging the lesser known erogenous zones and work your way slowly to the more common ones, teasing her all the way.
DO Use a generous amount of massage oil. Pick a good, high-quality massage oil. This will allow your hands to effortlessly glide over her body. Keep it nearby and reapply when necessary. Consider choosing a scented one, but always consult your partner first about what she likes. A person’s sense of smell is very important when it comes to arousal and you want to be sure that she likes the scent that you have chosen. Consider lavender as a possible choice, which helps to relax and increase desire in a person.
DO Break it down into parts. If you have a hard time figuring out how much time is enough, break the massage down into parts. Spend the first 25% of the massage working on her less erotic zones, such as the shoulders, back, neck, arms, hands, legs and feet. These are not generally considered erogenous zones, but they actually are! The next 35% of the massage can begin to incorporate more erotic areas, like the breasts, nipples, butt, inner thighs, and mons pubis. Don’t just jump into these areas and focus on them alone, but incorporate them into the massage that you are already performing. For example, when you’re massaging her lower back, you can now make your way down to her butt and then on to her thighs and inner thighs. The next 20-25% of the massage should be spent on the major erotics zones, like the clitoris, anus, vagina, nipples and breasts. This is the part where you will try to give your partner an orgasm. Then the final 15-20% of the massage is the wind down. Instead of just finishing the massage as soon as she’s cum, instead, start to work your way back into a massage of the less erotic areas that you started with. This will allow her to relax even further into post-orgasmic bliss.
DO Make sure you have seamless progression when you’re moving between less erotic areas onto more erotic areas. For example, make your way slowly to a more erotic area by massaging your way there. Don’t say, ok, first part’s over and immediately go for the nipples.
DON’T Forget to pay attention to your own hygiene. Make sure you’ve showered, clipped your nails, washed your hands and applied lotion.
DO Set the scene. Make sure the room you will give the massage in is clean, warm and comfortable. Dim the lights, put on soothing music, and do anything else that you think will help to make your partner relax.