Great oral sex need not be a chore or challenge. I’m going to give you tips on how to get the act right.
Many find oral sex, which involves using your mouth, lips and tongue to provide sexual pleasure to your partner, intimidating. However, it’s a proven fact that it helps enhance a sexual encounter. If you are looking for a complete guide on how to ace the game, look no further. PS: You can thank me later.
Get the basics right
Firstly, hydrate yourself. Oral sex is a lot of effort involving the use of saliva. You don’t want to be tired or dehydrated during the act. Brush your teeth and use a mouthwash. Make sure your partner cleans up his genital area beforehand too, for optimum overall hygiene. Oral sex is about your mouth coming into contact with the most intimate part of your partner’s body. To ensure that there is no cross-transfer of any infections or bacteria, it is vital to maintain hygiene. Genital fluids, urine, sweat, pubic hair, are all carriers of infection. Similarly, your mouth may also be a carrier for bacteria, especially if you are prone to mouth sores and ulcers. So are your hands, if you’re using them on your partner’s genitals. For this reason, hygiene is of utmost importance.
Don’t ignore the foreplay
Be it intercourse or oral sex, foreplay is bound to amplify the pleasure. Even if you’re planning to have oral sex, you needn’t start off there for stimulation. You can turn your partner on with foreplay—kissing, undressing, caressing, and stimulating each other’s erogenous zones. Not only does this prolong the pleasure, but also helps you find the right posture for the experience, and once you do go down on her, she’s more than prepared for it. To set the mood, talk dirty or whisper sweet nothings into her ears.
Get your technique right
A few time-tested methods go a long way in optimizing the experience. Start off gently, then pick up pace. The clitoris and the sides of the labia are sensitive points that react easily to stimulation; focus on them. Once her vagina is adequately moistened, it’s time for your mouth to work its magic. Ensure smooth movement! While some women don’t mind teeth, most find them grazing against delicate skin painful. Ask before you take the plunge! Needless to say, nipping and biting are a strict no-no.
Use your hands
Oral sex doesn’t necessarily translate into a hands-free experience. In fact, oral sex is enhanced with the combined use of hands. While using your tongue on the clitoris, you could also use your hands in tandem to ensure the base of the genital area gets some action as well. Also, it’s difficult to sustain oral sex by using just the mouth, since it can get exhausting. Using your hands interchangeably can help pace it out. Plus, a change of pace can help prolong pleasure and delay the orgasm. For more information on amazing fingering methods, check out my program called Flirting Fingers.
Communicate openly
Just like with penetrative sex, even during oral sex, communication is key. You should take cues from what your partner likes or dislikes. Don’t give into pressure; work within the boundaries of what you’re comfortable with. After all, even with oral sex, you need to be invested in it – it can’t be viewed as an unpleasant task that one needs to get done with; that’s not what your partner would like either. While verbal cues from your partner are important, watch out for non-verbal cues too. Throbbing and twitching are signals that she’s enjoying the experience. Lastly, be confident. A man who acts like he’s in charge of the oral sex experience is always a huge turn-on.
What’s your position?
There are several positions that work for oral sex. Your partner lying on her back, with you straddling her legs and bending over is the most popular and convenient position. Use enough pillows to prop her up, and offer you better leverage. The other option if you’re fit, is her standing, or sitting on a chair, with you kneeling down before her. The 69 position is great, because it also enables your woman to return the favor; however, this can be clumsy unless you guys are pros. A way to work around it is to do the ‘sideways 69’, which involves you two lying down on your sides and replicating the position.
TAKE IT UP A NOTCH
The 69 position ensures equal pleasure for both partners. The key to enjoying is to let yourself go, without worrying about how you’re performing. Use this chance to pleasure body parts that you wouldn’t otherwise have access to during penetrative sex – the outside of her thighs, and even her toes and ankles. For foreplay, let her lie down on the bed sideways, while you stand on the floor over his head. Then start kissing her, and work your way down her body until you’ve reached her vagina. If you’re on top, make sure you’re up for your arms and legs supporting your body through the act. If you’re below, you should be okay with your partner controlling how they maneuver their genitals onto your face. Another way to ensure that 69 is comfortable is to lie down next to each other, with his legs near your face and vice versa. Replicate the position, but with support for each of you.
Hot kisses,
Gabrielle Moore
P.S. Oral sex is a heavenly experience for both the giver and the receiver. And if you invite your fingers into the action as well it’s even more awesome. For more information on how to work those hot digits, check out my program on the subject – Flirting Fingers!
