There is nothing quite like the feeling of a warm, wet mouth on the vulva and clitoris. The tongue, with all of its flexibility and maneuvering abilities, has tremendous potential to give a woman erotic pleasure and bring her to orgasm. Some call it “going down,” “eating out,” or “giving head,” but the clinical term for oral stimulation of the vulva or clitoris is cunnilingus. The word is derived from the Latin words “vulva” and “lick.” Licking the vulva of your female lover is a classic way to really get her juices flowing.
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One way to get creative and have a little more fun with oral sex is to add some delicious flavors or treats. Stimulating your taste buds can make your sexual experience even more sensual. One option is to purchase flavored lubricants or condoms. Or you can try kissing and passing candy, mints, or gum back and forth between your mouths. Another option is to use syrup or liqueurs. Pour them on each other’s genitals and lick them off. Try smearing food on each other’s erogenous zones and then devour each other. Certain flavors like mint or cinnamon can add a tingly sensation — especially noticeable on the genitals — that your lover may really get into.
Yet another way to get creative is to play with the temperature and sensation. Try using an ice cube in your mouth as you give oral pleasure to your lover’s genitals or other erogenous zones. Sometimes cooling things down can really heat things up! Or warm your mouth with some hot water or tea before performing cunnilingus or fellatio. See how the extra heat adds to your partner’s pleasure.
Essential tip
When exploring your lover’s various erogenous zones with your mouth, you may find a responsive body part. She may communicate this to you verbally with her moans and other sounds of delight or with her body movements. When you find a responsive spot, hang out there for a while. See how much pleasure she can handle in that one area before you move on to another.
Don’t stick to the same old spot all the time
Your lover’s genitals are not the only parts of her body that are capable of deriving erotic pleasure from your mouth. See what other parts might be responsive. Take a tour of your lover’s whole body with your lips, tongue, teeth, and open mouth. Lick, suck, nibble, bite, and blow your way around her magnificent landscape. See the different responses you get from the toes and fingers, ears, neck, nipples, and navel.
Stimulate the G-Spot
Often, if you stimulate a woman’s G-spot while performing cunnilingus, you will send her to the stars. This works best once she is already very aroused and close to orgasm. It can greatly intensify her orgasm. To reach the G-spot you will need to insert one or two fingers, palm side up, inside of her vagina. Press toward her pubic bone, about one and a half to three inches in. You are feeling for a spongy bulb of tissue. When you find it, use a come-hither motion. Check in with your lover and explore any other motions that feel particularly good to her.
Take her all the way there
Bringing your female lover all the way to orgasm may require that you have both patience and endurance. Her arousal has to build at its own pace. It will help if the erotic energy between the two of you has been building for a while before starting cunnilingus. When you feel like she is getting closer, keep up the stimulation in a constant and steady manner. Be careful in your excitement not to overdo the pressure on her clitoris. It is fine to increase the pace a little bit, but let it build gradually. When she starts to come, don’t back off of the stimulation just yet. See her all the way through the end of her orgasm, or until she asks you to stop.
Once your lover has an orgasm, you may need to ease off of her clitoris, which will most likely be very sensitive at this point. Rather than abandoning her vulva altogether, however, you can cup your hand lightly over the entire area. This is a soft way to stay in contact with her as she makes her descent back down to resting. It allows the two of you to bask in the afterglow of her orgasm.
Hot kisses,
Gabrielle Moore
P.S. According to Chinese Taoism, performing cunnilingus is way to increase one’s vitality. The ingestion of vaginal fluids, or feminine elixir, is considered a health practice. You know what else is good for your health – and hers? Bringing her to orgasm by enjoying your favorite activity – playing with her breasts. Check out my Boobgasm program for hot and new ways to make her come via boob play alone.
