“I write about sex because often it feels like the most important thing in the world.” – Jeanette Winterson
There’s a hidden pleasure path you can explore on your partner’s body that even she doesn’t know exists. Follow my lead.
When it comes to pleasing themselves, women head straight for the clitoris. But when your girls is in your hands, it pays to take a circuitous path to her button of pleasure. One randy route: the area I’ve dubbed her M zone, which represents the letter M shape you make on her body when you touch her in this region. It can be very pleasurable when this ultrasensitive nerve-packed terrain between her upper thighs and lower stomach is stimulated. To bring pre-sex play to a more exciting level, you need to home in on unexpected places on her body that arouse her in ways she doesn’t experience by herself. Plus, it adds an element of surprise, which can be incredibly erotic and lead to better, more intense sex. To take her to M-spot heaven, follow these three steps.
Sexy Step 1
Tantalize her thighs
Have her lie down on her back on a comfy bed with her legs spread about 6 inches apart. Either kneel beside her body or gently straddle her, sitting back on her lower thighs. Don’t get totally undressed, since you don’t want to distract her visually from the main focus: her tactile pleasure.
Rub your hands together to warm them up (you can also use a bit of massage or warming oil), then rest them palm down on each of her upper thighs. Just go slowly. Women are used to being massaged on their backs, no their front sides, so she might be a little tense at first. Knead her on the outside of her thigh only and, with light contact at first, build up gradually to the point where you’re using considerable pressure (like you’re smoothing creases out of a shirt).
Slowly move up and down and side to side over this outer upper-thigh area, mixing up your moves between long, smooth strokes and circular kneading motions. Switch to softer, lighter feathering motions as you move closer to her inner thighs, where the nerve endings become finer. She will be extra-sensitive there and can be stimulated be the slightest stroke. Warning: she can also become ticklish, so gauge her reactions and facial expressions as you go.
Sexy Step 2
Slide up to her hip bones
When you’ve maxed out her pleasure in her inner-thigh region (she may get a little antsy from so much stimulation and become wet), move your hands upward toward her hips without ever lifting them off her body, stopping right above and inside the hip bones.
Now it’s time to seriously ease up with your hands. A lighter touch will go a longer way, so make gentle circles with the tips of your fingers, then switch to light swirling motions with your tongue. Not knowing what you’re going to do next will tease her, heightening the overall experience.
You can also create tactile surprises for her by rubbing a furry scarf up along the area. It’s a huge turn-on to feel sensations in places that she doesn’t expect to feel them and will send blood coursing through the area. For an added thrill, reach under her body and drag your fingers upward and across her tush very slowly, moving toward the base of the spine. Since any area where the bone is close to the skin is filled with nerve endings, gently massaging her tailbone region extends her pleasure.
Sexy Step 3
Arouse her ‘almost’ area
All it takes is a light touch to stimulate this lava-hot region. Slide your fingers diagonally inward, way below her belly button, just above where her pubic hair starts. You’ll be touching her pubic bone, which is a very erotic, highly sensitive area for women. Since it’s a bone, keep your fingertip motions extra-gentle. Try blowing on the area lightly, segueing into long sensual licks – and is she’s not ultra-sensitive, nibbling – across this smooth stretch of skin.
The key is taking your time. She’s going to assume you’re headed straight for her clitoris, so when you don’t make a beeline for it, you’re really going to be tantalizing her. The longer you wait, the more potentially pleasurable sex will be. Tip: lightly rub a popsicle across her almost area, then lick it up. The cool, then warm sensation will drive her wild. It’s also a perfect prelude to oral sex.
Have a fiery week,
P.S. Warning: not every part of her body is an arousal-friendly zone, so don’t start stroking and touching every inch of her. She may get uncomfortable.