“I think people spend too much time staring into screens and not enough time drinking wine, tongue kissing and dancing under the moon” – Rachel Wolchin
Kissing is often considered a means to an end. It’s how many couples kick off their sack sessions, but as soon as things start heating up, making out usually falls by the wayside. Some people think that sex is so full of pleasure on its own that kissing isn’t important. And that’s a damn shame because locking lips throughout the sexual experience (and not just at the very beginning of getting busy) can make the pleasure skyrocket considerably. There are tons of nerve endings in your lips that stimulate desire. Smooching before, during and after intercourse can be extremely arousing and satisfying. However, not all puckers are created equal. The trick is knowing what mouth-to-mouth moves intensify each stage of sex. Luckily, I’ve gone ahead and mapped it out for you. Try these tips to kiss your way to total bliss.
Foreplay: Tease her with soft pecks
Just as a runner needs to stretch before a race, your body requires an equally strategic warm-up before launching into full-throttle passion. You don’t want to come on too strong with your lips or you might accelerate her excitement too quickly. Instead, ease her into the pleasure zone, gradually increasing her arousal. The slower the buildup, the bigger the bang.
Give her little pecks all over her face – everywhere except the lips. As her excitement grows, trace the outline of her mouth with the tip of your tongue. She’ll be aching to envelop you with her mouth, but don’t let her do it… yet.
Move on to open-mouth puckers, but no tongue allowed. If she tries to French you, pull away from her for a minute, then return to kissing. The point is to be playful and work her into a desire-filled frenzy by not giving her exactly what she wants.
Add some playfulness into the mix by gently sucking and lightly nibbling on her lower lip every now and then. It will feel so good, she’ll instinctively return the favor.
During the act: Bring it to the boiling point
Once you are both fired up, coy smooches just aren’t going to cut it. This is the perfect time to engage each other’s mouths, no tongues barred. Passionate kisses elevate your blood pressure and cause your heart to beat faster, getting you more excited and making it easier for your partner to reach orgasm. Here’s how to stoke the flame.
Strip down and have her straddle you while you’re sitting on a chair. As you focus on thrusting, take her tongue into your mouth and very lightly suck on it so your lip action mimics the rhythm of your hips.
Vary the intensity and depth of the lip-locks you lay on your bedmate. Give her long, soulful French kisses for a couple of minutes, then surprise her by keeping your lips open and pressing them against hers – hard – like you want to devour her whole. Maintain the back and forth so she can’t guess what’s coming when. Not knowing what you’re going to do next will amp up her excitement even more.
You should let her know the passionate pressure is quickly building up inside you by switching up your moves and trying something even more erotic. Unlock your lips periodically, and swirl your tongue around hers in a circular motion as if you were licking an ice-cream cone. She will love that you’re in control and essentially taking possession of her entire mouth.
The big O: Let your inner animal loose
By the time you’re about to climax, give in to your passionate fervor, and let yourself go absolutely wild. Just follow your body’s cravings. Being mouth to mouth as you peak can make for a much stronger, more intense orgasm because it’s such a carnal act – your senses of taste and smell and touch are all converging at once. It’s like you’re on sensual overload.
Softly suck on each other’s necks just as you’re about to reach your peak. The pressure of your lips against her skin will amplify the buildup you’ve been feeling inside and create an even more powerful need for that heavenly release.
Run your tongue back and forth along the roof of her mouth. This is a place that rarely gets any attention; the more unique the sensation, the more exciting it is for her.
Let her know how hungry you are for her by gently biting her back and shoulders, spots on her body that can take a little roughhousing. Place the skin lightly between your teeth and pull; then run your tongue around the area and kiss it.
P.S. Fun fact! Men initiate open-mouth kissing to transfer libido-boosting testosterone to their partner. See, kissing is great! For more tips on how to intensify your carnal adventures, click this link.