How Often I Do It? 😏 More than most—and here’s why.

How Often Should You Have Sex?

Most guys in long-term relationships end up asking the same question… Are we having enough sex?

It starts out frequent, exciting, irresistible. Then—over time—life creeps in. Work stress. Exhaustion. Routine. Before you know it, you’re lucky if it happens once a week. Or once a month.

But here’s the truth: sexual frequency isn’t just about lust. It’s about connection, polarity, pleasure, and satisfaction. A healthy sex life isn’t measured in numbers alone—but yes, frequency does matter.

So what’s considered healthy? What’s realistic? And more importantly—how can you lead a relationship where she wants sex more often?

Let’s dive in.

What’s a Healthy Sexual Frequency?

Surveys show that married couples in the U.S. have sex about once a week on average. Younger couples (under 30) report 2–3 times per week, while older couples often slow down to a few times per month.

The truth? There’s no universal “right number.” But when sex becomes infrequent or emotionally disconnected, it starts to erode the bond.

A healthy frequency is one where both partners feel satisfied, desired, and connected.

And that’s not a matter of luck. It’s a matter of leadership.

Her Hormonal Cycle Shapes Desire

Understanding her monthly rhythm gives you a sexual superpower.

Around days 10–16 of her cycle (ovulation), her libido surges. Estrogen and testosterone spike, making her body crave touch, sex, and intimacy. This is her natural “yes” phase.

But after ovulation, progesterone takes over. She might become more emotionally sensitive, less physically aroused. And during her period, she may want emotional closeness more than penetration.

Knowing this helps you initiate at the right times and lead in ways she’s more open to.

How Many Times Do I Do It Per Week?

If you’re wondering what I do, here’s the honest answer: I have sex about four times a week—with two exceptions.

During the week of my period, it’s more like twice a week. And during ovulation, when my body is lit up with desire, I might have sex twice a day.

Sex is important to me, yes—but more importantly, it’s essential to Steve. Early in our relationship, we agreed on a rule together: he gets sex twice a week, no matter what.

Now, don’t get me wrong—I love every time. But that rule isn’t just about keeping him satisfied. It’s about protecting the bond we’ve built. That baseline of two times a week is a powerful foundation. It prevents the relationship from fading or going stale over time.

You don’t need to rely on mood, timing, or spontaneity. Set the standard. Honor it. And both of you benefit.

6 Key Aspects To Increase Sex Frequency

Here’s the secret: women want more sex when sex feels irresistible. When it leads to real, reliable pleasure. When it feels emotionally safe and physically thrilling.

Here are the 6 most powerful things you can do to increase how often she wants it:

1. Strong, Reliable Erections

If your erection feels like something she wants to ride, she’ll get excited before you even touch her. Weak, inconsistent erections quietly kill her anticipation.

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2. Making Her Cum Consistently

No orgasms = her body avoids sex. Full-body climaxes = her body craves it. When she knows she’ll finish every time, her libido spikes automatically.

Ready to master her body?
Learn how in The Art of Coming Together, with Casey & Layla.

3. Lasting Long Enough for Her to Peak

If you finish in 3 minutes, she hasn’t even started. But if you last long enough for her to melt in your arms—she remembers. And she wants it again.

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4. Your Masculine Presence

She doesn’t want a needy man. She wants a man who wants her with certainty and confidence. When you lead with masculine presence, she softens, opens, and wants to follow.

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5. Frequent Non-Sexual Touch

Touch her without expecting sex. Caress her neck. Hold her waist. Stroke her hair. These moments build emotional warmth. And warmth turns into arousal.

Learn how to touch her until she aches for you.
Master the art of tease in Kinky Kissing, with Teal Conrad.

️ 6. Spontaneity and Playfulness

If sex always happens in the same bed, in the same way, at the same time… it dies. Surprise her. Try something new. Tease her in public. Make her wonder what’s next.

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Final Thoughts

You don’t need to plead or pressure. You just need to awaken her desire so deeply, she reaches for you like she can’t help herself.

You just need to become the man whose sex she can’t get enough of.

When your body turns her on, your presence grounds her, and your touch leads her into orgasm after orgasm…

She won’t just want sex more often.
She’ll need it.

Choose the skill you need most—and start tonight.