“It is not sex that gives the pleasure, but the lover.” – Marge Piercy
Any trick that makes sex hotter for both of you will make you feel more connected – in and out of bed. Here I reveal the most game-changing moves you can try in bed. Start tonight!
Every woman gets jealous when she hears about how another woman’s guy is insanely good at giving oral. If you want to be the one that your partner brags about, do this: Right when she is about to come, lift her butt a few inches off the mattress (she’ll feel the need to clench her butt muscles to support herself) for a couple of seconds. The tension will make her orgasm stronger than ever.
My partner and I made up a move, and every time we use it, it feels extra close, since it’s our thing. I lie down on my left side and pull my top leg as close to my chest as I can. Then he kneels behind me and goes in, so our bodies are perpendicular. He strokes my boobs and hips and hits my clitoris perfectly.
If you have always been curious about S&M, but your partner thinks it might be a tad too kinky for her, try this instead: hold her hands over her head and don’t let go. She’ll love it. It feels like being taken, but it’s comfortable since she’s not tied up.
When you’re on the verge of coming, pause and get into doggie style. Touch her down there for the final moments as you’re thrusting, and it’s nearly guaranteed that you’ll come at the same time. When you do, it will make you feel more bonded.
The tropical trick
Spread coconut oil around your partner’s vagina, then go down on her (it’s safe!). Knowing she tastes good will relax her so she will enjoy the moment more.
The friction your partner’s underwear creates against her clitoris is amazing, so bring this detail into your sexual routine. How do you do that? Stay clothed for a bit longer, and when you do finally strip, the sex will be extra intense because of the feeling of urgency.
If you are timid in bed, try this move, it will definitely bring you out of your shell. Dig your nails into your partner’s buttocks when you are doing it in the missionary position and pull her up, closer to you. It’s an easy way to show you’re into it without having to say a word.
The eye lock
Whenever you’re hooking up, pull her into a sitting position while you’re on top, look into her eyes, and thrust back and forth. Since the eye contact makes it romantic by default, it’s a great way to have connected sex with your partner.
In my opinion, the whole point of a woman being on top is to feel like she’s dominating. Teach your partner this trick: when she’s sliding up and down your penis, she should squeeze her PC muscles on her way down. The pressure her clenching creates will make her feel in control. And judging from your sighs, you’ll most definitely dig it.
One night, when you are with your partner out at a bar, pull her into a coed bathroom and pin her against the wall and start making out. How to make it even sexier? Keep her clothes on – just reach inside her panties to touch her a few hot seconds, then say, ‘More later’. Try to give your partner some sort of preview (even just a thigh touch or an ear whisper) as often as possible. It makes you really anticipate what’s going to happen later on. By the time you get to bed, you’ll be practically bursting.
The pillow thing
To make doggie style more amazing, put two pillows under her stomach when she’s lying face-down. It creates this arch, so it’s easier for you to hit just the right spot on her clitoris.
The little friend
If your partner is having trouble orgasming, try a vibrator during doggie style and it will do the trick for her. After this, just knowing that she can climax from that helps her enjoy other positions because she doesn’t see them as a means to an end.
Have a sensual week,
P.S. You can’t fully enjoy a new experience if you’re going to be hung up on the fact that it’s so not something you usually do. So instead, decide together that you’re going to take a chance, check your inhibitions at the door, and adopt a let’s-just-have-fun-with-it attitude.