Let’s face it. For most of us, sex in public is a fantasy relic of our teenage years when the back seat of a car was the only place we had to be even a little bit alone together. That same fantasy often lingers however, long into adulthood, when sometimes the nervous thrill from the possibility of getting caught, the heat and passion of teenage rebellion can still be used to spice up what could be a decade-old romance. Yes, sometimes all it takes to heat things up is getting outside those four walls that make up the safety of your home. Sure, everyone needs a safe place to rest their heads, but not all of us have our best sexual experiences there… at least not all the time.
Why not try something new?
Exhibitionism is a huge turn on for a large chunk of the population, and most of the rest are voyeurs! Yes, being able to see or be seen by others during our most intimate moments can be a big turn on. In fact, much of the time we don’t even need to actually be seen by another pair of eyes. Just the thought, the hint of the possibility can be enough to get your blood pumping and your heart pounding.
Whether you want to be somewhere that only feels public, you want people to see you and be completely unaware, or you really want to show off with other kinky, sexy people, there is an outlet for you somewhere out there.
Why Fingering?
Fingering comes to mind for beginner exhibitionist play because it poses significantly less risk than getting full on buck naked and getting busy. You aren’t going to get caught with your pants around your ankles and your wife doesn’t have to worry about anyone seeing her with her legs up in the air. You can both be relatively incognito and still manage to get super sexy in a variety of locations and situations.
Shy Guys
If the actual possibility of getting caught makes you both so nervous that it would certainly prevent anything interesting from happening, you will have to get a bit creative. Do you have any big windows that only face your own yard? You need to find a place that isn’t just secluded, but controlled. The highest spot in the area, somewhere locked and empty, somewhere both private and exposed. What about a motel with extra-thin walls in a part of town you never go?
You can start this date with watered-down versions of the next two sexy situations by getting handsy in public without going all the way in. If she wears a skirt, you can easily tease with your hand on her thigh without looking out of place. Run your foot between her legs. Whisper in her ear to ask her how she’s doing without any panties on under her dress. Remind her about what you have in store for her later. Make her blush!
None the Wiser
If you like the idea of folks not knowing what’s happening, it’s time to scope out some good locations where you can be low-key and relatively alone, but still a bit adventurous and exposed. Traditional Japanese restaurants with private booths are great, but anything where she can sit between you and a wall and spread her legs without exposing herself works wonderfully. Any booths are great for this if they are big enough to put you side by side. Have her go to the bathroom with her purse while you wait for drinks and remove her underwear there.
Take your time and try not to draw too much attention, but don’t be shy about making her squirm if you can get away with doing it quietly and going relatively unnoticed. She’ll be convinced all eyes are on her anyways.
Clubs and Cams
If you can’t go out to a real swingers club, the internet is your next best thing! Pay close attention and remember this always: kinky people are everywhere!
You are not a freak. You are not weird, or alone. If exhibitionism is what you crave, there is a voyeur out there for you. Join a website or two dedicated to connecting local kinksters or swingers. You don’t have to swap partners to join these groups – lots of people just love to watch and be watched. Put yourself and your desires out there (with your lover on board, of course!) and see what you can find. You may just expand your boundaries a little further than you expected.
Have a sexy week,
Gabrielle Moore
P.S. I hope you had a laugh over what goes to the girls’ minds when performing oral. We’d love to know your thoughts when you go down on us. Leave them in the comments section! For more information about using your fingers in hot new ways, check out my program on the matter – Flirting Fingers.
