One of the most important things a man can do to guarantee his partner sexual pleasure is to know how to make the best use of his fingers. Good fingering techniques are an essential part of not only giving her sexual pleasure but getting her ready for even greater sexual pleasure. Also, it just plain feels good.
Fingering Has Its Purpose
The most obvious reason for fingering a woman is as a part of foreplay to give sexual pleasure. Believe me when I say being on the receiving end of a good fingering is an amazing sexual experience. Women can have intense orgasms from fingering.
However, another important purpose of fingering is to actually get a woman’s vagina ready to accommodate your penis. In order to have a penis it in, the vagina has to open up from its closed, un-aroused state and have sufficient lubrication or be wet. Fingering accomplishes both of these goals by enhancing arousal which makes the vagina open and elongate for a penis and become wetter as more lubrication is produced.
Why Use One When Two Are Available?
Most men start fingering a woman with just one finger. This may be necessary when working on the vagina since, as I said it needs to be opened up for sexual activity. However, once arousal starts you can make it take off like a rocket ship by using another finger. Insert two fingers into her vagina and push up to hit her G-Spot and watch her squirm with delight.
Remember you are not limited to one finger when it comes to the clitoris either. Here is where you can really surprise her with some serious pleasure. Most women are expecting just one finger to pay attention to their clitoris. When you start out using two you can double her pleasure. Take both of your fingers and rub her clitoris. Go in circles. Take her clitoris in between your fingers and move your fingers up and down in opposite directions.
In and Out and All Around
Do not underestimate the power of vaginal stimulation. Giving her the right kind of vaginal stimulation can make her beg to have you inside of her. When you insert your finger or fingers inside of her, try thinking of it like the hokey pokey. Put them in put them out and move them all about. You can simulate intercourse with your fingers. You can also insert your finger or fingers inside of her and them move them in a circular motion. These are just two examples of other ways to drive her wild with vaginal stimulation aside from going after the G-Spot.
Palms and Heels Can Make a Big Impression
One thing a lot of men don’t think about it how they can use their palms or the heels of their hands. Rubbing the palm against the clitoris and up and down the labia is intensely hot. Using the heel of your hand to rub the clitoris while your fingers are in her vagina can really put her over the orgasm edge. Fingering is actually about more than fingers. Use your whole hand to give her pleasure.
Two Hands Are Better Than One
You may think it takes someone of expert fingering level and experience to use both hands while fingering a woman but the truth is anyone can do it. In fact, there are so many pleasure spots in the female genital area using both hands is probably the hottest thing you can do. One amazingly hot thing to think about doing is to take one hand and use it to insert your finger or fingers into her vagina and then use your free hand to provide stimulation everywhere else at the same time. Use your free hand to stimulate her clitoris, rub her labia and anal area. If you want to really go for broke use your free hand and insert a finger into her anus while your other hand has its fingers in her vagina. Don’t forget about your thumb. It can be a very useful tool to stimulate her clitoris too.
Let Her Tell You How it is
Take your cues from your partner. Women use their bodies and their voices to express sexual pleasure even if they do not realize it. Pay attention. Does she moan in pleasure with certain stimulation? When you touch her in a certain way does she move and squirm and try to bring you in close or does she try to back away? These are all things to think about when assessing if you are giving her what she wants or not catching on.
Hot kisses,
Gabrielle Moore
P.S. Sweetheart, now you know you can accomplish so much by using a few relaxation methods while pleasuring her with your hands. For even more advanced techniques on the fine art of fingering, I invite you to check out my intensive course on the matter — Flirting Fingers — and become a true expert!
