Many women find themselves suffering from a lack of confidence when the topic of oral sex comes up, worried about how they look, feel, taste or smell when their partner goes down. If your lover is having a difficult time feeling good about her precious parts, she might benefit from a bit of primping and preening… but there are so many options! What’s best for her?
Hair Removal
From a full bush to bare skin, and every amount of curly hair in between, women have a vast variety of ways they can tend, maintain or beautify their pubic hair. Most options come with some level of pain or discomfort, so not all women will be interested. Don’t pressure her if she doesn’t care about her hair! It is perfectly natural for a woman to have body hair… don’t forget it.
- Shaving and Creams: if she shaves regularly and enjoys it as a beauty ritual, you may want to invest in a non-disposable safety razor. Get a high quality, natural shaving cream or lotion that will leave her skin feeling smooth and soft, and something antibacterial (and sweet smelling) like lavender to help prevent irritation. Suds up together and teach your partner how to shave you, then turn the tables and spend time shaving her. Be careful down there! Spend at least one or two shaving sessions just watching each others technique.
- Waxing/Sugaring: Both waxing and sugaring use a liquid substance, placed flush on the skin (often with some kind of fabric on the outside layer), which cools and is then pulled away, tearing the hair roots from their follicles. Some women find it incredibly painful and others can tolerate it as a minor discomfort, depending on the characteristics of their hair. This method lasts a lot longer, but isn’t quite as sexy an experience to share, unless she’s into pain.
- Threading and Depilation Devices: Similar to waxing, threading pulls hairs out by the root, but only a few at a time. A skilled practitioner can be much more efficient at threading than with a pair of tweezers. Depilation devices perform this same function at home, using motors and a textured “razor” style head to pull hair from the root with spot-application.
- Laser Hair Removal: The next solution for the dedicated, laser hair removal is for those who don’t want to worry about ever shaving, waxing or ingrown hairs again. It can take a great deal of time to cover any significant area, and it is definitely pricey, but for those who are absolutely sure they won’t ever want to see that hair again, it can be a great treat.
For most women, removing some of the hair from the lower lips can greatly improve sensation and lubrication, but many don’t feel comfortable removing all their hair. Leaving a small bush on top, or the now infamous “landing strip” can be a great compromise. Don’t pressure her, but if you are going to discuss it, talk up the sensory benefits rather than your personal preferences. She wants to know what’s in it for her!
Body Art
Decorating the body is the next step after grooming for quite a few women, so it is no surprise that this urge often extends to their genitals. If you want to play with body art in the bedroom, try out these artistic endeavors.
- Body Paint/Henna: Be sure to use non-toxic varieties. If you don’t care how long the paint lasts, try some edible body paints to brush on and lick right off!
- Airbrushing/Tattoos: Temporary or permanent tattooing can be a wonderful way to dress up the body and personalize it. Vulva tattoos are definitely painful, over such a sensitive area! Whether you are considering something permanent, or just looking for a fancy way to dress up the view, airbrushed tattoos can make a lovely addition to any body. They are great for test-driving tattoo designs before taking the plunge.
- Vajazzling is “The act of applying glitter and jewels to a woman’s bikini area for aesthetic purposes.“ Many women find this to be an incredibly erotic procedure which helps them to feel more confident in their naked bits! It is a great reason to encourage a bit of shared shaving, so long as you’re careful not to get glitter in your mouth when you finally stop admiring her beauty and go down.
- Body Jewelery: Again, either temporary or permanent, genital jewelery is an incredibly intimate gift to give! From wearable clit-clips and clamps to permanent hood or labia rings, there are dozens of different ways to dress of a vulva with extra dangly bits. If you are interested in permanent genital jewelery, visit a piercing specialist to talk about the details. Costume jewelery for vulvas is available at most sex toy shops online.
Get pretty and get down!
Hot kisses,
Gabrielle Moore
P.S. For more naughty secrets and tips and tricks on how to make cunnilingus sessions as hot as possible, check out my program on the subject – Oral Rapture.